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9 months - can't be fussy - can he???

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munz · 26/11/2006 17:37

he can't be a fussy one with food yet can he?

tonight was beef roast with carrots/swede,

nomrally he'll munch quite a bit before wanting a pudding (usually fruit)

tonight thou we had not even half of what he'd normally have but he ate all the banana aagin (also gave himn a bit of milk after to top up iycwim)

any fruit/yoghurts/redy brek etc type thing he'll wolf down but he's starting to get fussy over the vegs - but he can't be fussy yet - can he? any thoughts?

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snipersmum · 26/11/2006 19:26

sadly he can. try not to pander to him too much - I did with DS1 - if he didn't eat his first course I would run around giving him 3 yoghurts/breakfast cereal/ anything as I was so worried he would be hungry. And that way lay misery and fussy eating. When DS2 went through the same thing, I just took the plate away and ended the meal, and he is a MUCH better eater. A child starting not to eat is very tricky for a loving mother to deal with - good luck!!!!

LadyTophamHatt · 26/11/2006 19:27

Ohhh Yes.

Its a long slippery slop downwards from here on !

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munz · 26/11/2006 19:44

lol, cheers guys! lol.

he had the banana as a pudding (random child will eat his fruit and main at hte same time) anyhow DH put the nana in with teh veggies and the boy picked out the fruit left the rest - nightmare! lol.

so how best to deal with it then from here? - keep offering the same things? just leave him in the highchair? don't give him any puddings? - althou i'm a firm believer of if he doesn't eat at the meal time's and is hungry an hour or so later (inbetween meal and snack - normally a bread stick or such) then he has water and that's all - I don't want to encourage busicuts etc as a reward for not having dinner

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Chandra · 26/11/2006 19:48

Whatever you do, don't present him a menu to choose from, it's not a restaurant!

Having said that, if this is the first time your child looks to be fussy, chances are he is teething, has catched a cold, etc. Children get through periods of cause induced fussyness which doesn't mean they are here to stay.

Good luck!

AitchTwoOh · 27/11/2006 01:14

dd definitely gets fussy when she's teething, so rather than have an argument i often cook pasta with pesto and peas or roast chicken and new potatoes, which are her favourites. if she doesn't eat them i know she's sick. she really likes her peas still frozen as well, which is good for teething.

if you have a look at the blog there's a bit i wrote entitled 'now they get to have an opinion - dammit' when we noticed that after a few months of going 'oooh, what's this?' dd started to express her preferences. funnily enough lots of other people commented that they had experienced the same thing.

i don't think it's much to get fussed about, though, she's allowed to like some things better than others i think. at the time she was refusing carrots but now she likes them again. same with broccoli. it's just not a huge problem if you're doing blw (you are, aren't you?) as you can just eat the veggies yourselves and not worry about the vits as you know milk is taking care of that.

i must say that we aren't big pudding eaters, though, so we don't tend to do courses. fruit tends to be more of a breakfast and snack thing here. i am experimenting with some frozen yoghurt, though, (morv reported a huge success with it last week) so i've got my fingers crossed that that will be good for her poor teeth.

snipersmum · 27/11/2006 17:29

Try not to turn it into a battle (I am speaking as one who has written the book 'a million ways to get mealtimes wrong'), and keep the meal to a certain time. when you are sure she will not eat anymore then remove food without fuss and wait until the next meal. Keep offering a variety of foods and don't be put off by the fact that a certain dish was refused once - it may be welcomed in a week's time. Above all, let her be messy and explore her food - picking stuff out is about developing in more ways than one. I heard a stroy today about a child who was never given lumpy food etc because he was so fussy and it ended up affecting the development of the swallow reflex, which in turn led to speech problems. it also may help to eat as much as you can with other children of the same age - it is quite reassuring to see other children's dislikes too.

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munz · 29/11/2006 12:08

aitch - frozen yoghurt that sounds intresting let me know how you go.

yes we're doing BLW now - least 2 out of 3 meals are. lol. he's doing brilliantly at it - even manages to scoop some of his low suger low salt beans up and shove them in his mouth! lol.

he's settled back down now - so i'm thinking either he was badly teething, or he's just board of swede/carrots as the past two night's i've not given him those and he's eaten everyhitng in front of him so will try them again today and see how we go.

thanks for the advice thou, I don't want to turn dinner's into battles but DH is adamant he's not having a fussy son.

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munz · 29/11/2006 12:10

I have noticed since BLW he's more chatty as well actually, noty to mention OMG he gets into a mess! lol. atich can tell u from the piccys! lol. he enjoys his food thou and as long as he eats somehting i'm not fussy on mess! llol.

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AitchTwoOh · 29/11/2006 19:58

oh it was a disaster. but then i mixed it with clementines (to use them up, because i bought loads and she didn't like them).
well guess what? she didn't like them. morv has done it with mashed banana, which i can see would be sweeter, so i will try again...

CorrieDale · 29/11/2006 20:08

Munz, the boredom thing really strikes a chord. DS is a real bugger for this. It reached the stage when we couldn't have pasta two days running, even with different sauces! He also loves fruit - all fruit - but likes a variety. It gets very wearing... The only thing that I think escapes this is corn on the cob, which he would cheerfully eat at every meal/snack. Even when he's teething badly, he can gnaw sweetcorn off the cob.

Maybe we'll pay for it when he turns two, but I 'let' him be as fussy as he wants now. It's always been just a short-lived phase so far, usually connected with teeth or illness.

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munz · 29/11/2006 22:15

hmm will have to try some I think, althou banana goes brown does'nt it even when frozen - least I alwasy found it did.

tonight he was back to normal with his dinner, we had chicken stew with carrots swede pots a little dumpling (home made) he ate a good half of what was in front of him (and it was a big portion) so surprised he did so well with it guess has to be diff veg each night! lol. will try the corn on the cob - do you give little ones or big ones, actually his top teeth are not quite thru yet so might hold off, he loves sweetcorn thou

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AitchTwoOh · 29/11/2006 22:34

a real cob of corn will certainly help bring those teeth through...
and apparently the banana didn't go brown when my friend did it. i've not tried them yet, though.

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munz · 30/11/2006 08:25

hmm that's intresting - might try fre0ezing one with the skin on and then giving like a lolly pop try thing??

have to get some corn then

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AitchTwoOh · 30/11/2006 11:20

i do know that if you do that the skin goes a revolting shade of brown... that's for sure.

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