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Calling all mums of problem weaners...help

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talcam · 20/10/2006 23:01

Please someone help my 6mo DD2 has stopped eating. HV says she could be teething so leave it a while then try again. Easy for her to say as she is sleeping !
Started a few weeks ago, got on all right, not great. Then she decided she only liked banana, apple and pear, fair enough i thought lets get used to this eating thing keep trying veggies she'll eat them eventually. Now she is refusing spoons altogether. Tried the BLW thing but will only occasionally (twice) eat non mushed banana.
What can i do other than allow her to turn into banana and me into a sleep deprived wreck?

P.S. DD1 in hindsight was absolutely no bother with weaning. How I wish I had appreciated it more .

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AlfredAitchcock · 21/10/2006 22:15

cos you're training as a bf chappie and all, thought you were just interested in all things weaning... sorry.

harpsichordcarrion · 21/10/2006 22:18

she's eleven months, but like I said below she didn't eat much at all until a couple of months ago.
watching people feeding their babies purees looks so weird now...
I did give my latest Antenatal class your blog link
and all my antenatal teachers mates
I told you this aitch...

harpsichordcarrion · 21/10/2006 22:18

(I am an antenatal teacher not a BFC btw)

AlfredAitchcock · 21/10/2006 22:27

you did tell me that, yes, but i hadn't quite made the connection that you had a baby of your own. or maybe i had. i do get you, hunker, soupy and greeny mixed up in my head sometimes. mostly i remember that you laughed at my numerals...

my friend's baby will be one next week, it was totally bizarre seeing him being spoon fed today. dd (ten months) was gobsmacked.
he's a good baby, eats a lot of finger food and everythign, but it occured to me that my friend was tied to feeding him, couldn't really chat etc etc as she had to pay attention.

whereas when we (the adults and two babies were out for lunch) gave DD her food to eat it actually provided a welcome distraction for DD so DH and I were really able to eat in peace, iykwim?

so it's not just about not spoon feeding, it's actually about the liberation that hading your child a slice of cheese and a stick of celery can afford, becasue they are toys as much as food. i was quite knocked out by the contrast, tbh.

i will not forget again, harpsi. especially as yours is my favourite hallowe'en name... .

purplemonkeydishwasher · 21/10/2006 22:44

right so what if your LO is nearly 13 months and won't eat?
NOt mush, not chunky stuff, not proper food (BTW love your blog aitch)
He'll eat cheese and pears and cheerios (good non sugary ones from canada) but lately even these are getting rejected.
still BF a lot. A LOT.
(sorry for the hijack)

harpsichordcarrion · 21/10/2006 22:46

do you think he might be teething?
are you worried about his general health?
has it recently got worse?
are you giving him any kind of supplement?

purplemonkeydishwasher · 21/10/2006 22:49

he's probably teething (we're waiting for the dreaded molars) and he's had a rather flemmy cold. and his general health is fine and he's not a scrawny kid.
I know i shouldn't be worried. I know he's getting the nutrients he needs from me.
but when you see how much other babies eat...
sometimes he even gags just looking at food.
I just have to keep reminding myself that eventually he'll eat. it's a damn good thing that i had planned to keep BFing for a while!

AlfredAitchcock · 21/10/2006 22:57

poor poppet, purplemonkey... dd has had terrible cold recently too. have youever tried medised? dh and i have taken to calling it 'the liquid cosh'. it's a paracetamol liquid with knockout drug and thing to help them breathe easier as well. it's really helped dd the last few nights. (would it be wrong to give it to her every night until she's 12, i wonder?]
thanks for the compliment (i do hope you are leaving comments...) and sorry i can't help as we are only at the beginning of what i woudl call 'this adventure' if i was a cheesier type than i am. you sound like you've got it under control anyway.

harpsichordcarrion · 21/10/2006 23:00

you shouldn't be worried
he is getting all the nutrients he needs from you
if it makes you feel better, dd1 was eating enormous amounts age one, I mean three weetabix
between the ages of two and three she lived entirely on air and the odd cornflake.
it comes, it goes.
that's the parenting adventure

AlfredAitchcock · 21/10/2006 23:01

oh harpsi, you said 'adventure'...
big hugz.

purplemonkeydishwasher · 21/10/2006 23:10

thank you both for the reassurance!
one day he'll actually eat a meal or something and i'll probably drop dead of shock!

bumbleweed · 23/10/2006 18:21

purplemonkey, we are in the same boat

dd 12m eats pretty much nothing - it is a worry, and a pain because she feeds loads too

oh but the latest trick is dont put any food on her tray, and wait until she reaches for something from my plate and then give small bits at a time

but this week she is obsessed with our cutlery and wants to spend the whole meal time putting food on our forks and putting it in our mouths (but not eating anything herself!)

purplemonkeydishwasher · 24/10/2006 09:34

holy cow bumble! it's like our kids are twins!
yes, DS loves to play with our cutlery. putting it in our food, feeding us, poking the food with his finger.
the other day he actually put some in his own mouth! Unfortunately it was chili!! He hasn't done it much since!

bumbleweed · 24/10/2006 17:08

chilli - yikes!

thing is I dont always spoonfuls of banana porridge shoved in my mouth at high speed. today I got a fistful of grated cheese. yum.

bumbleweed · 24/10/2006 17:09

talcam - big apologies by the way, my stories are not cheering you much I guess - hopefully your dd will start eating much sooner than my little refusnik

mum2alice · 25/10/2006 19:33

Talcam- it sounds like we have the same baby(and same older dream-weaning child!). I've only just started reading this thread as we've had another meal of head shaking and not much else. No advice I'm afraid, but it does seem fairly common. I am also chronically sleep deprived at the mo so you have my every sympathy.

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talcam · 26/10/2006 22:29

Well it seems that DD2 didn't like me talking about her online. On monday I was emptying dishwasher and she was sitting in seat watching me, when she saw me with one of her spoons she went crazy shouting at me I quickly grabbed a fortuantely very ripe pear and mushed it with baby rice (sorry to BLW brigade) and she gobbled the whole lot . She has ate twice a day since; but will prob stop again now I've dared to mention it in public. So all is looking good now just to sort out the sleep thing...

P.S. thanks for all the top tips and advice and good luck to everyone with problem weaners

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