Offering alternatives - yes/no?

[tory79]

Ds is 10.5 months, we are blw. I have posted before about how he just doesn't seem that interested in trying different things anymore. So this evening for example, we had lemon and parmesan encrusted fish with new pots and veg. I also stuck a couple of potato waffles in the oven in anticipation of ds rejecting the new potato - he has been offered it a few times but just ignores it. Basically, he ate the waffles, ignored the fish and new potato completely and chucked the veg on the floor. He also ate a pear and a yoghurt for pudding.

This is very typical. I find that I usually have something on standby that I know he will eat, a bagel or similar, and as soon as he starts wailing, out comes the alternative.

Am I doing this wrong? If he doesn't want it should I just not give him anything else? I am worried that at 10.5 months he is getting a bit old to potentially go without any food, but at the same time, I feel like I am giving in and his diet is becoming a bit limited.

Any advice?

With DD, if she didn't eat what was offered at that age I assumed she wasn't hungry.

I'd always offer a main (whatever we ate) and then yoghurt and/or fruit afterwards - it was very rare that she didn't try anything at all. I didn't cook extras though, for me that defeated the object of BLW.

I have to assume he is hungry because he will shovel down fruit and yoghurt, and anything he 'likes', the problem is anything new - he just starts crying and often won't even touch it, so I end up giving him something else

It can take up to 15 tries for a baby to decide if they like something (or not), so don't be disheartened. Just keep trying. What about if you incorporate something he likes with the new food?

Haha actually last night dh poked some of the fish into the waffle lattice and he ate that without a problem! Still refused to touch the fish on its own thought!

I never did alternatives. I am so cruel that when my dd stopped eating her dinner and seemed to live on yogurt alone, I stopped giving it to her

I think you just have to do what you think is right. It's your baby. For me, it didn't feel right to be making all these fabulous meals and have her living off bread and yogurt. I don't know if it was the right thing to do as she could have stopped eating.

She didn't though and eats anything now. I have loaned her out to parents of fussy eaters before.

Well he did try something new today - he got his hands on a piece of my chocolate biscuit. Funnily enough, that went down a treat....