10 month old refusing almost everything!

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I have been doing a mixture of BLW and spoon feeding - DS loved to hold the spoon and feed himself so he'd have a lot of Porridge and pasta sauces. However lately he's just refused anything on a spoon and seems to just play with everything but eat very little. Should I worry? Is this a normal developmental stage? I feel like we're edging closer and closer to 12 months and the end of 'food is fun until you are one' without making enough progress.

I am still breastfeeding.

I'm in the same boat! 10 month old DS refusing anything on a spoon. Will eat some finger foods but this lunchtime he had a fruit bar thing and 2 breadsticks - not really enough to survive on.

My MIL (ex- health visitor) told me it's a control thing - he wants to control something and eating is the only thing he has any control over. I try to keep calm but find myself giving him vibes of 'EAT IT!' and that just makes it worse.

Hopefully someone will be along to help us both

Hopefully it is a phase then! I had DS in the highchair for ages on Sunday morning and gave him all his favourite things one by one. All of them ended up onthe floor. So I loaded up spoons of poridge and washed up. He got a bit upset and then, when he thought I wasn't looking, put spoonfuls into his mouth! He didn't eat much but it's something.

He eats better when he's at my mum's one day a week, maybe because she likes a leisurely lunch. He's in Nursery the rest of the week and maybe hates the fact that he has a more regular timeframe in which to eat?

Glad it's not just us! DS is exactly the same. As soon as I ignore him and leave him to it he starts feeding himself so maybe it is a control thing?

I can't believe he's not starving hungry - he seems to eat so little. I am just about to try him on potato rosti and baked beans - wish me luck

If it's any consolation it IS completely normal. Or at least it was with my DD when she was that age (she is now 13mnths).

She was extremely picky and more or less on a hunger strike when it came to solids, though she drank loads of formula (I'd like to add that this went on from the time I started weaning her at 6mnths so thats 4 months, twice daily of mostly refused meals. It was a bloody nightmare!!!). Then as if by magic a little after her 1st birthday something seemed to click in her head and it was as if she finally figured out that food was in fact for filling her tummy and not the milk (I say this, but there can still be days when she picks and eats like a bird).

I would say that if your DS is not losing weight drastically and still energetic and not getting ill or anything just roll with the ball.

And try not to panic... I know that might seem impossible when all the food you lovingly prepared is splattered across the room and he's eating quantities that wouldn't feed a mouse, but I honestly believe after all those months I fretted that in fact no baby has ever actually starved themselves....as far as I know at least.

Very normal. My dd chose food to fight about. She had been slow to gain weight as a tiny baby and I think I over pushed the breast at her in her 1st few weeks of life - all the fault of the silly %ile charts! Sometimes hardly ate anything in a day. We spent a lot of holiday time with her auntie when she was nearly 2 and she gave her sweets constantly - that didn't help! Anyway she ate really well for childminders but played me up.
Several years down the line she is 15. Still irritatingly fussy - but we cope. She eats well, is normal height, has sickeningly long legs and a beautiful figure. Still over fond of chocolate, but eats broccoli and sprouts! What I'm saying is just live with it - the more you fuss, the worse it will get. Don't push food, the child will eat when really hungry - oh and I did discover that about 2 smarites before dinner wet the appetite (adults have nibbles and nuts) and showed her that she was hungry. Sometimes she didn't actually recognise the hunger sign in her body.
Child number 2 wouldn't eat anything from a spoon from about 10 months up -we lived with it and allowed her control. Now at 11 she eats perfectly normally.
I must admit, that I often have to cook variations on a theme. Some have more spice than others, some have spuds mashed, others sauted and I generally cook 4 or even 5 different types of veg so everyone can get 2 - but I work full time and still manage (and it means I eat loads of veg which is good for me!) Stacking steamers are great!
If you've got a fussy child you can't do anything about it. Yes it's irritating and you worry and feel so envious of those parents who have toddlers who will sit and eat anything at a picnic - but c'est la vie. Those kids will make their parents worry about something else! Being strong and determined like a Victorian parent will only breed resentment and push the need for control onto something else! My family is happy, my girls are great and we get on really well (usually).

Wow - thats a tip i haven't heard before - 2 smarties to wet the appetite. I love it (said in the style of Bruno Tonioli from strictly)

im in the same boat here! DD 11m not eating a thing! only wanting to use her pincer movement to eat! meaning i put a dollop of wheatabix on her high chair and she sslllooowwwlllyy works her way through it.

and i keep getting stressed and wanting her to go back to eating off the spoon as i worry that she is not getting enough. but she still has a wee pot belly and jibbly thighs so i know shes not losing weight.

i shall persevere....