Nearly 10m and number of B/feeds

[WestYorkshireGirl]

Just wondering if anyone can tell me how many B/feeds you give your baby? My daughter is nearly 10 months and currently has both breasts for about 5-10mins in total when she wakes up, mid morning, mid afternoon, before bed and once in the night. She doesn't particularly look for the morning or afternoon ones. The nursery nurse at the weighing clinic today said I should cut the morning and afternoon feeds and replace with snacks instead. I looked in the Birth to Five Book but it only mentions quantity of milk which is obviously hard to measure when you're B/F. Am planning on going back to work in Jan so obviously will need to have stopped the daytime feeds by then, but I thought snacks and breast milk might be too much? Is breast milk superior to snacks? Just curious to see what others do! Thanks!

I'd ask the nursery nurse if she has any evidence to suggest that Sounds like she's plucked it out of the air. DS still had mid-morning and mid-afternoon feeds til I stopped bfing at 13 months. I'd want to drop a night feed before any day feeds anyway!

my ds is 11 months he has bf at 6ish in morning, then mid morning with nap, and a bed time bf. he does have about 3oz of formula with breakfast and if he is poorly then he gets extra bf's. hope this helps ; )

forgot to mention that sometimes ds is off his food when teething so i top up with the boob!

DD is 10 months and usually has 4 feeds a day depending on what we are doing. I would ignore nod and smile when people give you information like that, the best person to listen to is your LO

My ds is almost 9 mth and wakes once during the night but never great at eating dinner. Will eat ready brek weetabix for breakfast but after 1 spoonful of dinner refuses any more. Wil take fruit, fruit purée with natural yoghurt, toast. Do I need to be worried or will he come round.

O he is still bf once at night then morning first thing then after non and dbedtime

My HV told me with DS I could start to drop the day feeds at about 7-8 months but to be guided by him. I went back to work pt at 8.5 mo and as he refused formula in daycare he effectively weaned himself off day feeds though I still bf him on demand on the days I was at home. He'd stopped all day feeds himself by 10mo though. DD on the other hand is 10mo now and still feeding 3 hourly during the day!

If your LO eats well you probably can start to drop the feeds (morning and evening bfeeds plus milk on cereal, yogurt and cheese should easily make up the total needed) but if you're happy why bother -you've got ages until you go back to work (I'm also going back in Jan and trying to tell myself this )

Thanks everyone - it's really reassuring to hear what you all do. I find health professionals so black and white sometimes!

When my Ds was 10mo he still bf every 2 hrs during the day because he really wasn't interested in solids (despite everything I tried!) my hv suggested that I just stop bf him and then he'd eat solids when he got hungry .

By the time he was 14mo and had been at nursery a couple of months and I was back at work he was eating solids
well and bf only twice daily early morning/evening.

He's now 2.5 and eats a really varied diet (stopped bfing at 18mo when he seemed ready)

So I'd say be guided by your lo - if they're
eating loads of solids maybe you can cut down the bf if they're not then they need the bf.

Was your hv concerned by too much/too little weight gain?

9 month old here.

we have early morning, mid morning (with nap), post lunch (with nap), sometimes a small feed before dinner, then, bedtime feed and probably 2 good feeds during the night with a little comfort feeding for good measure!

i guess i got the hungry baby...

Mines the same as yours born sicky! He just prefers it to anything else!

Mine had 4 feeds in the day and at least one at night when he was 10 months old. I did feel a bit of pressure from 'well-meaning' people that I should encourage him to drop feeds. In fact I think I started a thread on here about it!

At about 11 months I started to offer bigger morning snacks (fruit, rice cakes etc) and try and get him to go from his morning feed until the afternoon, but that was only because I was going back to work. Now he's 1 and still has bf first thing in the morning, quick feed late afternoon and a feed before bed (but usually sleeps through the night - this is a very recent thing but I'm very excited about it!!!).

To be honest I still go with the flow, and on my days off he can sometimes have more feeds, but I think a big part of it is comfort and he's still adjusting to me leaving him to go back to work.

Sorry bit of an essay there!

I'm almost ashamed to admit how much my 9mo ds bfs. His big feeds are first thing in the morning, afternoon at some point, and 2 after dinner before he gets to sleep. But he also has on average 3 short feeds in the night, and snacks whenever he is upset during the day (e.g. bump on head while crawling, nappy change, brief separation from me) and it all adds up. He's tall and eats a lot of dinner (BLW) but I guess I haven't got the hang of how to get him onto daytime snacks. I was hoping that getting into solids would get him off the boob, but no chance. If he wakes up wanting the boob and I change his nappy instead, the wailing is heartrending.

Targets never bothered me in the past as I felt if I just went with the flow he'd naturally grow up and lose interest. I'm going to follow Ineedcake's advice and become more of a snack-preparer. It seems as if I spend all my time cooking/cleaning up after his meals right now and there's little time to leave the house and shop for it all. Can't wait till he gets his molars. At the moment I'm manically sucking my thumb in the hope he'll do the same and forget the boob so I don't break his little heart in a few months (as I want him to have a sibling asap...)

boognish - you don't need to stop bfing to have another baby (you might need to have a temporary break of 24hrs/or drop a night feed to start ovulating if you haven't already).

I've even got pg tandem feeding! There is 3.7y between my eldest dd and my youngest dd with one in between. DD1 only weaned when I was 8m pg with DD3.

There is a pg and bfing thread on the bfing/bottle feeding board if you want to have a chat to other mums who have got pg and are still bfing.

Gosh, thanks, TruthSweet. I really needed some advice about this. I'll get onto that thread...

Is DS3 extra greedy or something? He feeds on and off almost all night (co-sleeping). He has a 15 min feed in the morning after breakfast at about 7.45am. He has a 1hr feed at about 10.30am. He has his morning nap after that, then when he wakes up he has his lunch. He then tends to have another 15 minute feed before we do the school run, at about 2.15pm.

Then between when we get back at 4pm, he will have another 15 min feed. Then he will have dinner at about 6-ish. Then he has a feed at 9pm, and a feed at 11pm, all 15 minute feeds.

I haven't had him weighed for ages, but I can tell he is not overweight. Is he having too much milk then? He doesn't eat as much proper food at each meal as I remember my older dc's eating by 10mo, but they were all FF by this age. I thought it was normal?

i have been thinking about asking this question for a while, i just looked up routine advice for my 10month old (GF) and it says 2 or 3 milk feeds a day.

some days he's just having a feed on waking up and going to bed, other days mid morning and mid afternoon as well. he also is eating the most enormous amount of solids all day long - if he's not eating, he's complaining about not eating.

It is normal for under 2 yrs to be fed on cue (and those over 2yrs too!) but some babies need reminding to bf especially if they are particularly distractable or don't ask for feeds for whatever reason.

A baby of 9-11m should be getting 375kcals of complementary foods a day out of a daily requirement of 686kcals a day this is for developed countries due to the lower amount of breastmilk babies in developed countries consume even when bfing at this 'late' stage (comparatively speaking of course given how many babies are not bfing at 9-11m) - there are slightly different requirements for developing countries. See pg 18 for details.

As there is on average 75kcals per 100mls of bm that means at least 400-ish mls of bm per day is needed.

Post 12m though the fat content (and hence kcal content) does shoot up quite a bit to ~11% so theoretically older babies/children need less bm to get the same amount of kcals (12m bm has approx 88kcals per 100mls).

3 times a day for us. Health visitor advised me to drop mid morning and mid afternoon feeds to help persuade dd onto solids. She didn't miss the feeds at all - I think I'd just got in the habit of offering them,