10 month old refusing to eat majority of food

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hi,

I'm really struggling at the moment. We were doing really well with BLW before I went back to work, about 2 months ago but now it feels like it's all gone to pot a bit.

When I first went back I was doing mornings and MiL was looking after DS, but she wasn't doing things the way I asked and he picked upa feed to sleep habit and started refusing to eat lunch unless it was fed to him, which then progressed to a refusal to eat anything for lunch that wasn't a pudding and came on a spoon. He would at least attempt to eat most things for tea and we stopped giving him a pudding in the evening unless he ate most of his savoury food.

He had settling in days at nursery last week where he will be going full time next week when I start back full time, but is now refusing to eat anything but his favourite foods. I had to leave the room at lunch time because his total refusal to eat anything was really upsetting me.

I just want some back up that we're doing the right thing to keep just giving him what we have and if he doesn't eat it then just leave him to it rather than keep offering something else?

He's not teething so I don't think it's pain in his mouth when chewing. And he's having 3 or 4 milk feeds a day plus an early morning feed, around 4 or 5 am.

The other thing I thought it could be other than nursery was that he bumped his head on Tuesday afternoon and I took him into A & E to get checked out. He was given the all clear and was a bit sleepy for a couple of days after but otherwise seemed perfectly fine.

Or could it just be a combination of everything? Please, any advise would be really helpful?

TTIA

It's really common for children of this age to go off food. DD2 hardly ate anything till she was 2 but she was healthy and grew still the same. Try not to get stressed, it will sort itself out. As long as he is happy and doing well, I don't think it is anything to worry about.

Thanks k999.

Tried again at dinner time and managed to get him to try a bit of potato which made him gag and vomit, so we caved and gave him some couscous instead.

Is the gagging and vomit normal?

My ds went through a fussy stage, although a bit later (about 1 I think)- we did what you are doing (and what our nursery does) of offering what's available and not changing it if he didn't eat it - it lasted a few months, but we stuck to it and he's now fine and eating everything, pretty much. We just made sure that if he hadn't eaten a meal, the snacks we offered at later stages were slightly bigger and not too sweet (ie toast/bread). Had to put up with lots of comments from the MIL about how awful we were for starving him and that he would wake up at night starving, but he never did. I think it's just the age where they realise they have preferences and want to have their faves all the time, and don't understand why they can't!

Good luck with it - I'm sure when he settles into nursery the peer pressure of mealtimes will sort him out. That happened to my friend who had a very reluctant feeder - nothing at home but three big meals a day at nursery - she was most annoyed!!

Gagging is pretty normal. If he's hungry, he will eat. Does he drink a lot of milk? That can sometimes fill them up.