AIBU to let my LO suck on a Frube?

[fifitot]

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Have been on Weaning board on and off due to my now nearly 10m old food refusal. He eats finger food but hates a spoon. He isn't eating much tbh and still BFing away (all night it seems sometimes!). Anyway I gave him said Frube (yoghurt in a tube) today as his sister has them in her school lunchbox. Little devil, who won't take a spoon, happily sucked the yoghurt out!

I gave him another at teatime and again he loved it! Won't have the same stuff from a spoon though! I even put the end of an Ella's kitchen stage 2 pack in his mouth and he even took that! However they are quite sharp and won't do that again - was just an experiment.

A bit of me is happy he has anything but it just feels a bit 'wrong' to be doing this - although it's not really different from a spoon is it, it's not as if he's feeding himself with the spoon anyway.

Maybe I will keep going with these plus the bits of finger food he has in the hope he will increase his intake. Maybe try the Innocent smoothies instead if they have less sugar.

WWYD?

if it's the sugar you're worried about i thinkt he sainsburys own brand ones have no extra sugar in them, they're just sweetened with fruit

Don't know what you are so worried about tbh. its just food. Yeo Valley do an organic frube if you're worried. my dd never let me feed her - we muddled through...

Thanks. I will check out the Yeos.

You're right not sure why worried, just feels a bit odd squirting food into my LOs mouth! Though thinking about it, not much more removed from putting a spoon in. I need to relax!

Sainsbury's do lovely fromage frais in a pouch with a round 'mouthpiece' bit iyswim...? Has no added sugar or nasties in.

maybe if you give him a spoon and a little yogurt he might dip it himself?? Perhaps he wants to 'do it himself'

Mine loves Frubes too They are about 13% sugar though, but lots of fromage frais are very sweet.

Fifi - why are you worried about how much he is or isn't eating?

I think you will find it a lot less stressful if you go along with the 'Food is fun, till you're 1' thinking. Give him food, lots of different things, not just normal 'finger food' or let him take things off your plate if he wants them, but don't worry what he's actually eating.

He will get more goodness/calories from your milk/formula than he will from food - so don't stress yourself out about it!! :)

Thanks everyone.

Chipping - I know what you are saying is right. I've read Gill Rapley and in principle like the idea of BLW and in fact am going down this route by default tbh. I just thought at his age he would be eating more! In fact he is nearly 10m and only now is getting slightly more interested in food. He grabbed a slice of pizza off his sister's plate last week and today sucked on a cheese sandwich of mine.

So in theory I love BLW but he just makes up for his lack of food by bfing too much my liking - especially at night!

It's hard not to worry I suppose especially when his weight stagnates and the bloody HV is giving me grief that he isn't on 3 meals a day. I am avoiding the baby clinic now!

Neither of mine ate a huge amount at 10mths iirc. Dd fed herself and ate bits and pieces. Ds was happy to be fed but didn't eat masses (though he was a big boy). Try not to worry. He's still very small.

i have been giving DD (1) frubes since she was about 10 months. It was a nice change for her. She enjoyed the novelty. They freeze quite well too and are great when they are teething.

Avoid the HV - most of them know less about babies that you could write on a cigarette paper and have less common sense than they were born with. Honestly, I don't know how the GOOD ones haven't burried the crap ones yet!?

As for night feeds - if you have a DH/DP/SO get them to do the night wakings for a bit until he realises that waking in the night is boring and unproductive. At 10 months, regardless of how he's being fed he doesn't need to be being fed at night (no issues with those who want to feed at night).

Dream feed and he will not need another feed until morning.

He's cottoning onto this eating lark - he'll be fine :) Just give him all kinds of things and textures, let him 'choose' off of your plate and don't stress about it.

I have tried a dreamfeed but now he just wakes for it! Goes to bed at 7pm after a big feed, then wakes around 10 now for another. Then usually every 2-3 hours after that!

Really want to drop those nightfeeds. Maybe I could do 10 and then send DH in for the rest until morning...........Trouble is DS can scream for England. One night we tried to settle without a BF and honestly 4 hours later he was still going! This includes small lulls but on the whole it was a 4 hour scream fest! I dread sleep training.

Hi fifi I had that same problem with dreamfeeding dc3, she started to wake earlier than the dreamfeed, so one night, a few months ago I got really cross and refused to feed her and she went off to sleep after about an hour of screaming(which really surprised me). Then she stopped waking for the dreamfeed and I stopped doing it. I think any further into the night and she'd have screamed for hours and hours, maybe the dreamfeed is the one to give up.We've had success this past week with teething gel, after screaming for 3 hours she went off to sleep when we put the gel on. We're finally back to 2 feeds in the night,after teething hell for 2 weeks. We were down to one night feed but not anymore.

Back to the frube... Jojo or somewhere used to sell a round green squeezy thing for feeding purees from, a bit like an ella's kitch thingy.It would be easier to stick to the frubes though.

Hi fifitot, I've posted on other threads of yours before. My almost 11month old DD is almost a twin of yours.

A bit off topic, but DH has been taking over some of the night wakings with a bottle and DD has drained a 180ml (6oz) bottle when she's woken, whereas during the day she will never drink more than 120ml from a bottle. So our problem is confirmed - DD is taking most of her calories at night and it's probably the same for you. Now we haven't got around to not feeding her at night when she wakes, but with her in her own room she's only waking every 3-4.5 hours which is a big step forward for us. So next step is to try and reverse her feeding habit of thinking day time equals play and night time equals food and sleep! How to do this without being cruel I haven't figured out yet.

Thanks Trillian - I recognise you. Sorry it's still so bad for you! 3-4 hours still sounds horrific tbh. Mine won't do a bottle unfortunately, which would be some progress as at least DH could do the feed.

I am like a zombie at work in the mornings. One day I will look back at this time and laugh - I hope!

This is the thing I was thinking of. Bit wierd though.

Thanks Moo - thing is it's only for purees so he really needs to be on lumpy stuff. In fact he'll eat/suck lots of formed food (brocolli, pizza etc) it's just that the frube is a bit of a one off. It's yoghurt and always smooth so don't mind him having that.