Not sure how I feel about this.....

[Dozeyland]

So at DDs Grannies, and DDs aunty was there, and....
She gave DD (19wks) Chocolate mousse..... I was speechless.
I have been EB my DD from birth and wanted to start her
Weaning at around 6months ish... I know its only 1 month
Away but I want her to start when I start her, and starting with babyrice and veggie purees
Etc... Then finger foods and blw.
What do I do when people look after her? What if they give her
Stuff I don't want her having? I'm a laid back mummy
But this - it kind of made me think ....oh?!?

Also..

Mlw says "I think you should get her use to a bottle,
Ready for when your back at work"
I just said well she could just go straight to sippy cup
When having food and still have milk from me.

Sorry for rant

Am I being silly?

YANBU, I'd have been fucking livid.

Say something now or they will always think they can do what they like. Your baby, your rules.

You're not being silly. It won't do her massive amounts of harm, but that's not the point. You're her mum, so you decide when she's weaned.

However, if you are getting other people to look after her, I do think you have to accept that sometimes, once she is weaned, they are going to feed her stuff you might not. It's about balance though, and the odd bit of mousse or chocolate from granny won't undo all the goodness that the food you choose for her gives.

Just as an aside, if you're going down the BLW rout anyway, why not go straight into it at 6mo rather than the babyrice (which many on here seem to think is pointless) and the purees?

(Genuine question, not trying to start up a traditional vs BLW argument)

I love the thought of BLW, but just love the idea of pureeing too, only for
A few weeks to get her tastebuds going (and traditional route I guess)

Yeah I don't mind that other people will give her things, I woukd
Just like to be asked. I want her to get use to healthy options. And not her first taste
Be for chocolate mousse if you see what I mean.

I will start her on veggies/fruit etc. Then she'll have what we have
Which is healthier food.

What do you think about the 'she needs to get use to the bottle"?
I disagree. I have worked so hard to get BF to the right balance (mastitis x2,
Thrush, wound etc.) There is no way I am giving it up for the sake of
Others wanting to have her more. My DD loves feeding from me, I love it. The bond is amazing
And I don't want to lose that just yet!!

When she's weaning, ill give her water with her meals in a sippy cup probably. Bottles aren't the answer to
Everything are they? I have nothing against them but I will not be told that
"She has to get use to one?!"

WRT the bottle - DD is 11mo now and still struggles with a sippy cup - they either pour water out everywhere or hardly anything comes out, even with Dyson-like suction. She has a doidy but generally takes a sip then throws the contents around.

So whilst it's the ideal that babies use a cup from 6 months (I think) it may not always be possible - and certainly there is no reason why your DD couldn't take a bottle if needs be and still feed from you as well. However, I don't think she HAS to get to use one, just don't rule it out as a possibility.

Oh no im not ruling it out, its just the " she needs to get use to it"?

well If she's thirsty she will have a drink whether it be a sippy cup or bottle - that'll be her choice!
:)

Grrr my back is so uppity right now! lol

Have some

I would have been livid too. FFS, how dare they?

19 weeks is a world away from 26 weeks, closer to 2 months than 1 month difference, and even 1 month is a really long time to someone who's only 19 weeks old!

Having said that, if it was me I would tell them how absolutely unacceptable it is, then forget about it and carry on EBF until you're ready to wean. One taste won't really make a difference (but don't tell them I said that!)

It's hard work to do purees then switch to BLW because the baby gets used to having a certain amount of mush to supplement milk and is a bit lost if you suddenly stop it and expect them to be feeding themselves. Much easier to either just start off with BLW or do a combination of purees and finger food, whichever you prefer.

About the bottles - some babies never have one, my DD never did. She had breastmilk and water in a lidded tommee tipee cup until recently, now she has water or cow's milk in a lidded cup during the day and breastfeeds first thing and last thing - but it really depends when you're going back to work, how long you will be away from her at a time, and how that coincides with her getting used to a cup, IYSWIM. My own DD rejected bottles with a vengence when I thought I would try her with one at 6 months, so if you think you might need to use one when you go back to work then plenty would say it wouldn't hurt to try her with one now.

Fuck, I'd be totally livid!

YANBU - I'd be feckin' mad as well! Chocolate mousse??

It's not quite the same, but we were at my MIL's the other week and DD was in her high chair eating her veggies with us (she's 7 months). We had just had the conversation about what she can and can't eat (basically I said everything but definitely no added salt, sugar and honey, even had to say why salt and sugar are bad for babies) and my MIL took a big blob of apple pie (lots of sugar) and ice cream on her finger and shoved it in her gob, and said something like "Oh, but she wants some". We had just talked about it, FFS!

Agree with Flisspaps though, I guess if other people are going to be looking after baby once she's weaned we may have to accept that granny may disregard our wishes and bribe baby with chocolate buttons give baby food we wouldn't normally...

I am very laid back about food but even I would have been utterly livid about chocolate mousse.

(although secret mmmmmm)

Re bottles, no you don't need to use one, but don't rule it out as some babies (my DS) will hold one of those double handed cups but take a miniscule amount of liquid. He will drink from a cup/glass if I assist, but it's v messy! A bottle is a handy way of making sure at least some water goes in as well.

Oh and BLW v "tradition" - I wouldn't worry - we did a combination - some purees to experiment with taste from 4 months, then from 6 months he has some "whole" food, like bits of chicken, rice crackers, bagel, vegetable chunks etc, and some chopped/mashed up which I feed him and he has no trouble at all going between the two.