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weaning difficulties - baby loves to breastfeed!

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purpleelephant · 07/02/2011 19:42

Hi, I am the mum of an almost 9-month old who is not enjoying the world of solids very much. Weaning started ok when he was 6-months old but after a bout of various winter viruses he totally went off solids and has not really got back into them, much preferring breastfeeding. He will only eat solids 3 hours or so after a breastfeed when he is very hungry.

I have been recommended by the health visitors and GP to cut down on the breastfeeding to increase his appetite for solids. I was breastfeeding on demand every couple of hours but have managed to push feeds to every 3 hours which I know is often for a 8.5 month old. I am trying to make the breastfeeds every 4 hours in the day to increase his appetite for solids but he is really not enjoying this and me withholding the breast is making him pretty upset, though I can get some solids down him when he is really hungry though it isn't a pleasurable experience for either of us. I have no idea whether I'm doing the right thing and feel that I am rushing him to go faster than he wants with solids but he is almost 9 months old and I have to go back to work in 3 months time. I would also like to be able to leave him with my partner for slightly longer periods of time as 2-hourly/3-hourly feeds are pretty limiting. I feel really mean withholding the breast-feeds though and lots of advice says to allow them to cut back on milk feeds when they're ready. I wish I didn't have the going back to work deadline but I thought a year on maternity would be ok. I have tried everything to coax him into solids, cooking delicious foods, a bit of finger foods,giving him foods he likes (stewed pear) etc. Have other mums experienced this and am I doing the right thing cutting the breastfeeds down and forcing him into the world of solids? I wish this was going smoother and was more enjoyable for us both because it feels like a bit of a battle of wills at the moment. Thanks for any advice.

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whomovedmychocolate · 07/02/2011 20:41

He's nine months old - it is not going to kill him if he gets a lot of breastmilk and not a lot of solid food. :)

Your HV and GP are being mad - he may well be teething or still under the weather and he really doesn't need a lot of solid food yet.

Ignore them and go with your gut feelings - he will eat when he's ready - before one food is for fun and not just for nutrition.

Go check out www.babyledweaning.com and have a look at the forum - you'll find a lot of mums get similar advice and it's just plain wrong.

Please do not worry - you are doing fine. Great in fact to be still breastfeeding him. Just relax, do what you are doing and it'll come right. :)

MummyElk · 12/02/2011 23:11

i agree with whomoved, you are doing a great job to still be bfing him... if it helps my 11mo is still feeding a lot during the day and i'm back to work on monday! I've had absolutely similar thoughts and worries but what i would say is that 9-12months is quite a developmental leap for babies and he may well pick up on solid food with a bit of time.... your breastmilk still has more calories in it than any solid food (or formula) can give him so that's probably why he wants it.
Chill out, enjoy this time and see what happens over the next couple of months. He might drop some feeds on his own terms...
Can you get to a bfing cllr/clinic over the next week or two? Peer supporters/cllrs might have some solid advice to give you??

DefNotYummyMummy · 17/02/2011 20:34

I would let him go at his own pace and just keep trying to interest him. He loves his Mummy (and what's so wong with that ?) I have breastfed 3 children (currently on number 3 who is 6.5 months old).

I know what it's like to feel exhausted and now I am on number 3 I am so tired of being pregnant or beastfeeding (I have had them all in the space of 5 years). I go back to work in May and I am worried about my baby as she has little interest in food and b/f all the time (although in the past couple of days I realise that she may fare better with BLW as she grabbed a fish finger off her brothers plate and munched away on it). A lot can happen in the month of a child. You wont be breastfeeding forever and this time will pass before you know it (and then you'll miss the special time you had feeding him !)

It's fantastic that you are so dedicated and I am sure things will come along and you'll get a little time to yourself too before you know it.

Good Luck.
xx

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