Help - not sure about milk and food at mealtimes

[Liskey]

My little girl nearly 9 months has always been poor with weight gain and is now on prescription milk to help this.

Question is about meals/milk as i'm very unsure about weaning - She usually wakes about 5 and has a feed then has breakfast around 7 followed by more milk. She has a nap then mid morning milk around 10.30.

Major worry is should I be changing the next meal/milk time? At present I feed her a meal followed by milk around 14.00 following another nap - should I be trying to feed her a meal before her nap and milk at mid afternoon? At the moment she has tea about 17.00 with a nap before which I think she needs to drop as she's now not wanting to go to bed and then bedtime about 18.45.

Thanks.

I used to split milk and meals so at 9 months ds's day would have looked like this:

7am - milk
8am - breakfast + water
10.30am - snack (used to have a milk feed at this time but was replaced with snack and drink of water)
12pm - lunch + water
2.30pm - milk
5pm - dinner + water
7.15pm - milk

Cheers for that - I struggle as DD sometimes wakes at 4/5 for a feed and then goes through till 7 and sometimes (rarely) goes though till 6 without waking She's not at all consistent with wake ups. Its very difficult trying to set times for anything with her being like that.

DS woke for a feed in the night up till he was 8 months - from 6 months I started offering progressively less at the night feed until he eventually stopped waking for it. When he did still have the night feed I would offer a top up feed around 7.30am (ish) to tide him over till his next milk feed time and get the rest of the feeds back on track.

We daren't not offer her food as she's had such slow weight gain :( Last weigh in 2 weeks ago she weighed 13lb - so we worry she is hungry.

Hopefully by the next time we see the dietician in Oct we'll be able to cut that feed down as its a killer giving her the 23.00 feed and then getting up so early as well.

My DD is also just 9 months. Just wanted to add that a few weeks ago we went through a stage of tiredness and hunger seemingly overlapping! my little one was have a nap at about 11 and then waking for lunch. have now worked to point where she is able to stay awake a little longer so has lunch at about 11.30am (ssems early but as she starts her day so early I guess it makes sense!) and then has a nap at about midday.

Our day now looks like this;

5-6am wake and breastfeed
7am breakfast
8-9.30 nap
10ish milk and snack (usually toast or fruit)
11.30 dinner
12-1.30 nap
3ish Milk (snacks throughout the afternnon on fruit, breadsticks etc)
5pm tea
6.30 breastfeed

Like Seona she has water with meals. Her daytime milk is really not a huge amount and she has it froma cup. She dropped her daytime feeds herself so I just make sure she has plenty of yoghurt, cheese, rice pudding etc.

She's now sleeping from 7pm to 5or 6am so guess she's getting enough.