How much milk do you give?

[StickChildrenThree]

Hi,
Just wondered how many milk feeds my dts "should" be having?

They are 8.5 months and on 3 solid meals a day. They have 3 bottles but the lunchtime one is a bit hit and miss - too early and they are still full from lunch, too late and they are too tired to drink much. That small window that they will drink is all too brief so it gets missed most days!

HV was a bit vague about bottle feeds and I haven't had much info about ff after I stopped bf.

They have milk in foods,cheese, yoghurts etc do I need to persevere with the lunchtime bottle?

Have lost all confidence in my ability to make decisions lately so will be happy to do as I'm told!

If they don't notice it being missed, I'd say they probably don't need it! Guidance is about a pint (21oz ish) of milk, but this includes any in food, cheese, yoghurt etc, so if they're on three solid meals, they may not need that much extra.

No, sounds fine. Both mine have not been keen on the afternoon milk, and ended up giving up the fight at around the same time. Just offered them fruit and water instead. Mine were dairy allergic, so didn't even have cheese etc substitutes. So long as goodly amount of milk in the morning and evening, plus on brekkie and bonus if they also have cheese and yoghurt etc, then no problem at all.

Ps why have you lost confidence, if you don't mind me asking? Sounds like you know full well what they want and don't want, maybe you just need to ignore anyone who is trying to tell you otherwise?!

Thank you for your advice, will give up the struggle and hope they don't notice! Fruit and water is easier to give if we are out

lukewarmcupoftea - not sure, felt the same with dd1 and not knowing what to give in regards to ff when weaning. The food side I've got no problems with but just kind of felt abandoned when I gave up bf'ing and suddenly don't know what to do! I usually know what I'm doing or research what I don't but the hv's are so wary of giving ff advice that I was struggling to decide what they need- if that makes sense?

Makes total sense, going from bf where they are in charge, to ff where you are instead. It's always a tricky time as well, I've found, the 6 to 8 or 9 months, with weaning. They're neither one thing or another, milk or solids, and you never know whether you're getting it right. Just muddle through and they settle into it in the end! They'll soon let you know if you're getting it wrong, either by waking more in the night or being unsettled between meals etc. I'm sure you're doing just fine!

Thank you lukewarmcupoftea, just needed to be told that I'm doing ok and to trust my instincts again!
Have dropped it and neither of them have really noticed . Have had 1 disturbed night but think that was teething not hunger. It's made the afternoons a lot less stressful!

Less stress is always good. Especially with twins, blimey, I'd have cbeebies on 24 hours a day and an IV wine drip in I think!