Partner gaming

[Spoggie75]

Hi
I just wanted to put it out there and find out how many wife's/girlfriends are widows to gaming ?
How do you deal with it ?
Approach it ?

I have the same problem. We are newly engaged and he's recently been signed off work with depression and all day every day he is on his PC. I can't even get an hour out of him

It's very frustrating isn't it x when we first met he wants never on the computer but now 4 years later and married it's every evening
When I bring it up he is very defensive and just says well it's not like I'm out down the pub 😡 but he doesn't realise the loneliness is the same

That's exactly what my partner says. We have actually just had a mini argument about it. But he doesn't see my side of things

My exh ruined my 40 th tea party by ushering guests home early so he could play his new game.
Immature fuckwit - that's why he is an ex.

My current situation...

Him fifa.. me miffed 😅

I'm currently sat with the cats whilst he is shut away in his office 🙄. We never spend time together

Cats are better company.

I agree that's why we now have 2 of them. I just don't know what to do to make him calm down with how much he plays

There’s cables that can ‘mysteriously go missing’ 😏

He works in IT so he can replace missing cables 😩

Bugger.. erm, I can’t think of anything devious 😂 have you spoken to him about it? It’s not nice for you to feel like that. To be fair to my OH he isn’t on it that long, but if he was I’d definitely have to say something if I felt neglected xx

Oh sorry just read your pp

It's becoming a problem with my health. He wakes me up screaming at his games. If I don't tell him to go to bed he will play all through the night. It's draining me and mentally it's hurting me. Xx

My ex was a gamer. Don't think they ever change. It was awful. He'd be on there til the small hours then come to bed and disturb me, then have dreams about football or war games and beat or kick me. In the end we had separate rooms, I'd go out and he wouldn't. He became an embarrassment tbh because he was in his 30's and he'd only want to game. Ironically his mother treated gaming addicts in her clinic - yet her son was a waster gamer who ditched jobs all the time because he was too tired from gaming all night. Don't know why I ever married him. Best thing I done was get rid!!

Wow sad to hear people are going through it too but comforting to know I'm not alone x my other half will will say well your watching tv programmes you like that I don't so I go in the computer x it winds me up he says I just have an issue with gaming/computers

Me and my partner have a comprised system, how many hours he can play his game and how many hours he spends either playing games with me or watching tv/anything else together.
If they're willing to compromise then there's ways around it, if they're not, they may have an addiction x

DH likes a bit of Call Of Duty and I'm fine with that. I love a bit of Zombie killing by myself. However, if either one of us says "Can you switch that off please?" It's done. Well, maybe we can hold off until the game round has finished of course. Only once was my DH rude when playing and it resulted in him losing the round thanks to me shutting the electricity off at the fuse box! He had shouted/sworn at me for walking into the living room and I think he perhaps lost concentration or something? Well I didn't wait to see what it was, I just shut the leccy off immediately. It's been years and never has it happened again.

You have to find a middle ground. Set a realistic time to play up. If your DP won't turn it off after a certain time then you need to deal with that either by turning it off yourself or leaving. Gaming isn't a bad thing. DH and I both enjoy it (OMG Dead Island is addictive!!!) but we will both happily turn it off if we even so much as think our partner is wanting it off.

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