Australia move

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I’m looking for help I’ve been with my new partner for 1 year ( not my kids dad ) I have two children he has none and she wants to go to Australia to earn money for ‘us’ and to experience life he wants me to go with him but I have two kids with someone else, I would love nothing more for me and the kids to go with him but I’m not sure what terms I have to even stand on there with it because I’d need permission from the dad, he also has a dog and I also have a dog! My heads all over because he can go no attachments but I have so much to think about and i don’t know if we’d even survive if I stayed and he went at this point because what if he goes and doesn’t want to ever come back and I’m just stuck in my same old position and loose him? Anyone ever been through something like this and know what I can do because it’s destroying me at this point because I feel if he doesn’t go he will just always resent me.

Does he have a job offer across there? You won't be able to just up and move without that, so I would hold off panicking about it until something concrete comes up.

I think it would be profoundly selfish to move your kids to the other side of the world, away from their family and friends, because of a guy you've been dating for a relatively short time.

But it's a fairly moot point unless you want to leave your kids behind (which would also be incredibly selfish) because it's vanishingly unlikely that their father will agree to it and the chances of a court granting you permission are pretty much zero.

No he doesn’t have an offer as of yet but I think there no reason for him not to get one, he’d already done all the research and was going to apply ect before we met but then he went off the idea and no he’s back on it, so I don’t doubt he knows what he’s doing I don’t want to panic because it’ll just push him away but I don’t know what to do if it actually happens

If he chooses Australia over you then he's not the man for you, is he?

‘family’ is not an issue it is just their dad which isn’t a conversation that I would like to have because there way he is it could go literally either way.

He would have to be completely insane or just not care about his kids at all to consent to it.

And without his consent you won't be going anywhere.

I guess that’s true, hurts but I guess so…. Just wanted to see if there was anyway I could make things work

Does anyone actually survive their partner going to Australia (anywhere) without them for a long period?

Oh, OP. I know you're really into him, but maybe you need to find a boyfriend who isn't thinking about moving to the other side of the world from you, just for shits and giggles. It doesn't really say, "you are the one", does it?

if they have a close and loving relationship with their father there's no way he'd agree to this. Not really fair on your children either never seeing their father. it's not just round the corner!

Even if your boyfriend can get a visa for Australia it doesn’t mean you will. You can’t just “go” with him. You have to get a visa for you and your family too, unless you plan to marry him.

If the father of the children won't give permission that is the end of any plans. I would ascertain this firstly.

What is his profession /trade? Is it on the demand list?

You’ve only been together a year. That is nowhere near enough. How well do you or your kids actually know him. Does he live with you?
you’d be in an extremely vulnerable position going to Australia with a partner, unmarried and with kids he has no responsibility to feed or clothe.