Baby shower advise

[Lablover123]

The background is:
I went through IVF and miscarried very early on. My best friend is pregnant and is due 4 days after when I should be due.

I’ve been invited to her suprise baby shower.

I’ve decided I won’t attend, I will also at the same time be going through IVF again.

I was thinking of inviting my friend round just me and her, putting some nibbles on, and get some baby shower decorations.
Is this a lame idea?
Thoughts?
Thanks

You've got to do what you feel comfortable with. I'm sure your friend will understand how you are feeling. I think it's a lovely idea that you have her round on your own.
All the best with your IVF.
Xx🥰🥰

Do the other attendees at her baby shower know you were pregnant? What are you feeling that makes you not want to go?

(At the same time
It’s a lovely idea but just wondered if you were happy to do your own baby shower why you wouldn’t go to the ‘proper’ one)

Her mum is aware.
The thought of painting a smile on my face, with all the strangers. I feel it’s too much,
As well as il be waiting to find out if this cycle of IVF has been successful.

Just thought, something me and her low key, I know she will completely understand if I decide not to attend. But also didn’t want to occasion to go by and not do anything.

I don’t know if I’d do the decorating bits. But an invite for a tea/fake fizz/cake/something either at your place or out somewhere nice would be a lovely gesture.

Likewise if you want to do a gift but can’t face the baby shopping experience (I couldn’t during my ivf) maybe a boots/supermarket/amazon voucher?

Sounds totally reasonable to me OP and sure your friend will enjoy it! Do what makes you feel comfortable

That sounds big hearted to me. Easier to just miss it completely and pass on a small present.

Good idea and lovely.