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Slinketypokey · 27/11/2025 21:35

I am looking for a tutor for my 8 year old to give him some help in maths mainly but some other things possibly too. He’s not the most motivated learner (he’d rather be off playing rugby) so I figured I need someone fun. Interviewed a nice person but they are not very experienced. Made me think what am I looking for? My instinct is year 4 content isn’t that hard so I don’t need someone who is world class at, say, maths themselves, and it’s more important to have someone who will actually hold my son’s attention for an hour. Or am I underestimating and it’s really important to have someone with deep subject knowledge.

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123goandrun · 27/11/2025 22:04

Just sent you a DM.

Bubble678910 · 28/11/2025 14:38

It's an interesting question and very much something I spent a lot of time thinking about - neither myself nor my DH are especially 'academic' (I also didn't grow up in the UK so my understanding of the British school system is zero!) and also neither of us had a tutor growing up, so when my eldest was struggling at school and we wanted her to sit a couple of the local 11+ entrance exams, I didn't really know where to start.
My idea of a 'tutor' was someone like a former or current teacher and so I steamed ahead and looked on our local facebook page, and also tried quite a few popular tutor matching sites (you'll see them mentioned on here often!).

It was AWFUL.

We tried two people recommended via Facebook, both former teachers with great qualifications who now tutored full time.
On paper, great. In practice, horrendous.
One of them had awful coffee breath, bad BO and had no idea how to speak to children. I had to air the room out after he'd left (he only came twice!). The other was a woman who'd been quite senior at one of the local 11+ schools, again on paper looked great but in real life seemed constantly flustered and bewildered trying to teach my (very easy-going!) daughter. We then tried a few of the online sites but again, a real mixed bag. I realised too late that just because someone has certain qualifications, actually being able to teach someone, in particular a fairly young child 1-2-1, is a very rare and specific skillset.
Overall we spent close to £750 whilst searching for someone and I was going to give up on the whole thing.

In the end, spoke (vented!) to a mum friend who recommended the company they use and we've been with them ever since. We use them for my daughter, who has just passed an extremely competitive 11+ exam, and also for my son who is in Year 3 for Maths and English/creative writing. They are online, which works a lot lot better for us personally, and the tutors are just really really nice, enthusiastic, friendly people from all different backgrounds. One of my daughter's tutors is at Uni abroad, another has just finished his degree so is tutoring whilst he looks for a grad job. Both kids have genuinely thrived and come on a lot academically just because they really enjoy and look forward to the sessions.
I am happy to share their website via DM - they're a very large and well known company who I've seen recommended a couple of times on here, but they get very good results so get very booked up in some cases months in advance for certain exams.

TeenToTwenties · 28/11/2025 14:46

First define success:
. your DS enjoys the sessions
. your DS improves in maths confidence and is more likely to 'have a go' rather than saying 'I can't'
. your DS improves in maths such that primary teacher notices
. 'some other things too'? Do you mean English?

(Or is success - DS improves enough at maths to pass 11+ and get to grammar / selective private?)

Despite comments above I'd still try local facebook unless you want to try a tutoring centre such as Kip McGrath. And I would try for a primary teacher or HLTA.

If it doesn't feel right after 3-4 sessions don't be afraid to stop. I've twice continued with tutors who I didn't have the right feel about and both times I've wished I stopped earlier.

Slinketypokey · 28/11/2025 16:02

TeenToTwenties · 28/11/2025 14:46

First define success:
. your DS enjoys the sessions
. your DS improves in maths confidence and is more likely to 'have a go' rather than saying 'I can't'
. your DS improves in maths such that primary teacher notices
. 'some other things too'? Do you mean English?

(Or is success - DS improves enough at maths to pass 11+ and get to grammar / selective private?)

Despite comments above I'd still try local facebook unless you want to try a tutoring centre such as Kip McGrath. And I would try for a primary teacher or HLTA.

If it doesn't feel right after 3-4 sessions don't be afraid to stop. I've twice continued with tutors who I didn't have the right feel about and both times I've wished I stopped earlier.

Thanks!

Success would be he gets better at maths hahaha

Currently quite behind, but no dyscalculia or anything, he's a bright capable kid. Just he's young for his year and a bit of a late developer meaning I think he didn't really consolidate a lot of his early years stuff

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TeenToTwenties · 28/11/2025 16:14

So you need a teacher who can identify and plug holes from previous years, building up confidence as they go.

(Maths is a lot about having confidence to have a go.)

Slinketypokey · 28/11/2025 16:29

TeenToTwenties · 28/11/2025 16:14

So you need a teacher who can identify and plug holes from previous years, building up confidence as they go.

(Maths is a lot about having confidence to have a go.)

And do you think that comes more from experience or vibe?

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TeenToTwenties · 28/11/2025 16:34

I think you need both.

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