I feel like my parents are quite toxic people (maybe not the right word, but can’t think of another that suits how they are).
My Mum left the family home when I was 9, leaving me and my slightly older sister to be cared for by our father, my mother had mental health battles and my father was a functional alcoholic.
My mother has said some awful things, like leaving us was the best thing for us, totally ignoring the fact we grew up without a mother and having to navigate being a young girl alone, she told me in the company of her ex-husband that she didn’t want another child and only had me because my father wanting another child.
She is very argumentative, she has raised her voice at me in public because she didn’t like my opinion, I felt like a child being told off, which led to some turned heads, but there are lots of other things.
My father is critical of people, he said I lived like a pig once, just because my house was messy after having our daughter via c-section, he still consumes too much alcohol and constantly talks negatively, he also used to go through my bedroom when I was a teenager, even though it was my own space.Theres lots of other things too, but it will take to long to write.
I had a difficult time growing up, I developed bulimia, had anxiety and experienced some awful bullying to which I kept to myself, but I still love them, but I realise they don’t do me any good.
How do people deal with having toxic parents?