What to do on an anniversary of death?

[incognito1991]

I know it seems rather strange to ask for ideas because it should be what we want to do but I’m struggling to come up with anything. I had a stillbirth last year, next week will be 1 year since this, we want to do something on the day, something we could do every year, I’m just struggling to come up with anything. She doesn’t have a grave as we opted for cremation so not like we can go visit, has anyone any ideas?

I know it's very different for you OP, and many, many years ago I lost my 3 week old son so I do have an understanding of how you must be feeling, but on the anniversary of my DH's death my adult son and I usually go for a walk together. Just a quiet walk in a picturesque and peaceful place. My DH doesn't have a grave either. Just time together to share closeness in a peaceful place is very helpful in our experience.
I'm so sorry about your loss.

Im so sorry.

Would you like to create a memorial? Maybe plant something in your garden?

Oh I'm so sorry for your loss @incognito1991 .
I would do something calm and quiet in nature. Visit a garden or a National Trust place with a garden. Be with trees and plants and then a quiet lunch somewhere.

If you're not familiar with visitable gardens and this appeals to you, if you give some idea where you are I might be able to suggest somewhere. Don't if you don't want to obviously.
Or if you're close to the sea I'd go to the sea. I find watching waves very healing.
Sending a hug. 🌹

It will be 2 years soon since ds died by suicide. I'm at the hairdressers ( normal 5 week appointment) and then dh and I will go into the countryside for a walk.
The first one was truly awful as I felt physically ill. ( but wasn't...just grief)
We have a bush in the garden for him.
I am still very angry and bitter. I dont think that will ever go away.
Whatever you choose to do make sure you look after yourself.