Tell me that this is insane.
Ex-h does not do parenting any more. He sees the children about 3 times a month for a McDonald's or a walk on the beach. That's it. NO parenting. Prior to leaving, he was very actively involved in everything they did.
So, I've just had this conversation :
Me (to youngest) : what time is your game tomorrow?
Her: oh. It's at 2. Hang on, I'd better message Dad. I was going to see him tomorrow. I'll have to reschedule him.
And internally, I'm screaming : WHY CAN'T HE TAKE YOU TO YOUR GAME?????
But he won't. And I won't ask. And the last thing I want is for her to ever think that I resent taking her to anything. I genuinely don't. And I can't bring her attention to the fact that her father no longer parents her, because that would be hurtful for her to recognise.
So, we go on. And I will spend tomorrow (gladly) driving her around. And he probably won't see her.
Why won't he offer? Why won't he be a parent? God.