What counts as a normal family social life over a month?

[Cushionsy]

What do you consider a normal social life as a family?
We live in London and have primary aged children. Family mostly far away.
How does your social life tend to go over a usual month and also how was it over summer?
I can’t tell if I should be initiating more social stuff or if I’m actually overdoing it!

eg. Do you see one or two other families usually on a fortnightly basis for quality time together ? Do you just see other mums in your own once a month I. The evening? Do you not have any local friends and instead keep up with old s hook or uni friends just having reunions? Do you do most socialising in a very surface way through a hobby or sport without much added chat? Do you initiate a lot of play dates and do you get asked back ? Etc.

Personally I meet my best female friend for a coffee/lunch around once a week or once a fortnight. I go out with a group of female friends (mostly school mums) for lunch/dinner around once a month. Meet up with old friends from school/uni/old jobs every now and then (all live far away).

We meet up with another family for an evening or weekend activity together around once a month.

My husband does a sport with friends roughly once a week.

Our primary child has a play date around once every 2-3 weeks. A birthday party around once a month.

Our secondary school kids arrange their own social lives and spend much more time with their friends than we do! And have very busy social lives.

My DCs are adults but at primary school we would meet with either grandparents or another family twice a month, DCs saw school friends every week. I would see coleagues for socialising or old friends maybe 3 times a year.

Moved way too much, friends were quite circumstantial

For who??
DH meets up with people maybe once every 6 months.
I meet up with friends maybe once a month.
DS1 is out a couple of times a week.
DS2 would happily never leave the house!!

Family - see my parents maybe every other month. In laws - fits and starts. Maybe every couple of weeks for a bit, then nothing for months and months.
Neither of us have got other extended family in england.

I don’t think we are necessarily normal.

I see a friend or two once a week (but with one or all the children)

husband has fallen out with with almost every friend so sees a friend once every six months.

used to see family friends for lunch once every 8-12 weeks or so but don’t see any family friends any more as husband doesn’t like them or they privately no longer want to socialise with my husband.

There is no normal. What works for one person won't for others. You have to do what's best for you within the limits of your time, budget and energy.

Also make sure socialising is fair within the family. Eg not one partner out several times a month abd the other only gets to go to the work Christmas do if they're lucky.

Once every few months we meet (me, DH and DC) with another family we know with kids the same age.

I meet every few weeks with a friend on my day off, usually for a walk.

I also go to a class once a week where i have a few casual acquaintances, and a book club every month or so.

Playdates are generally not involving parents. Less parties now also and they are more likely to be drop off rather than stay and chat.

Then ad hoc infrequent other events.

I don't think I have a great social life, moved around a bit and don't have a group of friends here, just unconnected friends from different places.