My partner of 1year has booked a vasectomy.
neither of us want more children. We both have 1 child from our previous relationships.
he is M38 I am F40.
I have a coil which needs changed next year and one of my friends said if you get one after 40 it last 10 years. I have mentioned to my DP that I have PTSD (exaggerating) from my last coil change. BUT having one more is fine and not having periods while on the coil is a good thing.
does having a coil help with menopause?
anyway the AIBU DP and I are abroad just the two of us, 1st holding abroad, twice he has brought up his vasectomy and that is booked in for the end of the year. My issue is that I have a coil, he rarely comes inside me and I have dated men in the past who find it harder to cum after a vasectomy.
his ED is that in our relationship of 1year her has only been able to come inside me 5 times. I have to finish him by hand every other time and even after 30 minutes of sex which we both enjoy it take at least 3-5 minutes of vigorous movement to get him there. He will sometimes go softer for a time before he is about to cum
i am worried that a vasectomy will make it even harder for him to come.
TLDR: my DP brought up his vasectomy but I made him upset by reminding him that he rarely cums inside me. We are on holiday and the first time he mentioned it I didn’t get baited but today I did. Why go through the procedure when I have a coil, I’m 40 and you rarely cum inside me!
the doctor didn’t ask him the right kind of questions IMO. I think he should have therapy as he has other issues too some around sex and some around being scared of upsetting people. He is always apologising for things too