Has anyone found that illness has brought you closer to your husband or wife?

[ThatCheeseNeedsEating]

As my title says, has it happened when one of you has had to care for the other? Especially where you had previously drifted apart? Or did it make the gap wider?

I’m sorry you are finding this so difficult, but I’m not sure are going to find your answers here.

I would suggest that you start writing - everything important that has happened in your marriage, especially the events leading up to your husband announcing that he wants to divorce. And start counselling to help you clarify your thoughts and emotions.

However, what I will say is that I suspect he has ulterior motives. If he hadn’t been diagnosed with cancer, he probably would have gone full steam ahead with the divorce. He is talking about a gradual distancing, but is it possible that he may have got close to someone else.

If it were you who had been diagnosed with cancer, what do you think he would have done?

Don't stay just because it seems like the easier option. Don't set yourself on fire to keep him warm…