DH has messed up and I need a rant

[MinnieMountain]

DH and I are going to his cousin's wedding in Norway on Thursday. I was reluctant to go when we were invited as the wedding is 5 hours north of Oslo and we're going on our 2 week family holiday on Saturday next week. However, DH persuaded me it would be fun, child free time (MIL is looking after our 12yo).

I agreed only because DH said he'd checked the trains from where we're staying to Oslo and there's one early on Sunday, so we'd be back late Sunday. I've just noticed that there's no early train on Sundays. The only solution is get an internal flight which is still 2 hours drive from where we're staying. We might be able to get a lift with relatives or it might mean an expensive taxi.

I'm SO pissed off with DH. It's not been the easiest few months as he did his knee in playing hockey. He missed our May HT family holiday. Our wedding anniversary was a meal at home rather than a walking weekend.

I know mistakes happen but my sleep is bad and I've had a virus for a week. I've just had enough.

Have you told him? It's up to him to get it sorted.

I told him and he's sorted it now. I'm still incredibly pissed off. I always do the organising at home because I work PT, but this is H's side of the family and I was pleased he'd done all the work. Except he hadn't.

Sh*t happens? Sorry spounds like an overreaction.

Peri-menopausal, sleeping badly, had a virus for a week. I was already feeling that I was struggling today. Then this. Plus I noticed not him.

And you can say "shit".

This is a rant BTW, not am I being unreasonable.

We all need a good rant sometimes and I know it's probably too soon but can I go in your place?

The journey of a thousand miles begins with someone confidently saying, “Leave it with me.”

Has he definitely fucked up or have the train company pulled one over on him.

I once got stuck in the arse end of nowhere in the middle of Western Australia for 3 days because the coach company changed their timetable in the week between me checking and the day the bus was actually supposed to be there.

We went to wedding abroad a few years ago. Very detailed travel info provided with the invites. The venue was a 20 minute taxi ride from the airport.

Arrived at the airport and asked the taxi driver how much to X? He came back with a ludicrous quote so we went to the next taxi. Same thing. We said "but it's only 20 minutes - why is it so expensive?" Turns out it wasn't 20 minutes, it was a few hundred kms. Yes, there was more than one airport and we were at the wrong one (in the same way that London Stansted is nowhere near London)

As someone said upthread "shit happens" - but it's shit when it does!

Hope you can salvage something OP.

DP had ONE thing he was in charge of/needed to make a decision on regarding a recent holiday (Scottish Islands). I even said, “are you sure?”when I heard his plan.

Yep, that bit didn’t work out and there had to be an expensive fix whilst away. I did take a deep breath and didn’t let it spoil the holiday, much though I would have liked to drill down on how infuriated I was. Rant away here, ahead of what I hope will still be a great trip.

Well you’re acknowledging that you’re not in a good headspace, OP, so that is clearly making you interpret a mistake as worse than it is. Yes, in this case I would say ‘shit happens’, and it’s now sorted. Hope you get over your virus soon, and I empathise with the peri, it’s a bastard.

Shit happens. Get over it.

DH is pretty sure he fucked up. He initially looked at coming back on the Monday, but I said I'd only go Thursday to Sunday. He thinks he didn't then check the Sunday trains.

It’s good to have a rant sometimes.

im like you and do all the organising for the same reason - DH puts the hours in at his business - and he has fucked up a couple of times when he’s taken the lead (one was non-refundable flights for wrong month - thankfully ‘only’ lost about £100).

Doesn't anyone want to take my place? We're stuck at Gatwick with no flight departure time. I wish I'd told DH to go by himself.