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Escaping abuse 3 years on

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newlife202 · 07/07/2026 11:16

Today marks 3 years since I packed what I could fit in my car and left my abusive ex husband with my children.
It hasn't been easy and there were times I though it would have been easier to stay.
I left my home, my job and certain 'friends'.
All agencies i contacted to support were useless quite honestly, I was told to leave my teen son with his dad or I wouldn't get housing by womens aid, I was called by my support worker while at home with ex from a local domestic abuse charity.
My sister and a friend helped me find a house, hide documents, set up cameras and contact the police.
No charges ever brought but it's all on file should anything have happened.
Divorce was finalised a year after, no property to sell so easy and all online.
No advice wanted just to say to anyone in a similar situation there is light at the end. Tell someone you trust and start to make plans if you can.
I love my job, my children are so much happier and after counselling I am now dating again. I can see my worth and would never stand to be treated that way again.
I finally have the happy home I dreamed of instead of one filled with fear, something I never thought I would be able to say

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2022NewTimes · 07/07/2026 18:40

Its over four years since I left and three years since the divorce was finalised. It was so hard at the time and the verbal abuse I got from ExH was awful - he was so used to me caving in he thought it would still work if he scared me enough.....My family and friends have been such a huge support at that time..
The change in me over those years is so noticeable. They say they have the old me back now....
I love the peace and joy in my life . ExH is blocked so cannot contact me. I never regret leaving. My home is my sanctuary . I say yes to new experiences and wish I had done it years ago....

W0tnow · 07/07/2026 18:42

Ahh. This has made me happy. Well done! To you, and the second poster. All the best to both of you.

Yellowshirt · 07/07/2026 18:50

I don't think you can ever truly recover from abuse. I think you can put it to the back of your mind and move on but you can never forget .
My ex wife never had charges bought against her either.
Well done for getting out and starting again.

AnonymityAnonymity · 08/07/2026 09:01

Well done you OP for making a new life for you and your children.
It's wonderful to hear what you have achieved and hopefully it will inspire others to find their strength.
Best wishes.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 08/07/2026 09:28

What are your child arrangements did he take you to family court

newlife202 · 08/07/2026 12:33

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 08/07/2026 09:28

What are your child arrangements did he take you to family court

My children were old enough to decide for themselves and choose not to see him.
If he had tried to take it to court I would have told them why I left. He and his family blame me so I dont think he would have wanted that

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