Quick question 🙋‍♀️

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Doing my kids a party, my son has asked if a kid from his class can come, this kid is hot and cold with my son, quite rude to him and quite short with him, this is on a regular basis, ive witnessed these things and my son has told me things over the years, when he came to his party last year he was a pain in the backside acting like a toddler to be honest, slightly rude at times, so I’m not a fan I’d rather not invite but it’s not my party and my son has asked, given all the above do I still invite him?

How old are the children? what sort of party? How many kids are coming? Do parents stay?

Maybe the dc has social issues ?
Give him a chance. .
And gives your ds a lesson that one he can pick his own friends, 2 that you listen to him. And 3 you the opportunity to be a helicopter dm for the day ! Ime boys especially need a bit of guidance in a strange home..

Model the behaviour you want to see in your son. Explain you thought he was a bit rude last year and you’re not sure he’s a good friend to your son but acknowledge he might have social difficulties so if your son wants him there invite him. Come up with some ground rules like if he’s rude he has to leave. Depending on the age say a parent needs to come with him?

It’s a little garden party at our own house, they’ll be about 15 kids in total, I’ve said to parents they can stay or go whatever works as I know all the kids really well from the school, they are mostly great and if any of them do get a bit naughty/over excited I can get them to behave by telling them in a playful way but they do listen. This particular child, not sure if he has any issues, possibly? But my thing is he’s not very nice to
my son I’ve no idea why he wants someone there that isn’t nice to him but there we are. I’m not trying to be a helicopter mum I’m trying to stop any upset or rudeness on sons special day but I still want to give him the choice as it his party. I guess it’s do I not to make sure son has a great time or do I go with it knowing he’ll be the way I’ve described so my son gets his request….wven tho it isn’t the best request…but then I guess that’s life isn’t it, least if we see it we can perhaps help explain but then he won’t listen to us anyway 🤷‍♀️ hence why I’m here asking I just want to do right by my son

Once with one child we invited them but said the parent had to stay. Would that work? (Depends on the parent!)

Yeah I might just do that, last year he ended up standing in the corner for the entire party looking angry as hell his parents were there, they took him in the end….ill just do that least he’s been invited and I can’t get in trouble for not inviting him, we’ll just have to go with it 🤷‍♀️🙈