I feel soo sad and just need to vent as I'm aware there are people that have it worse out there and I really shouldn't moan so much.
My kids performed terribly this school year ( I don't live in the UK so school year is over here ). My 8 year old who has a language disorder and most likely dyslexia struggled immensely with reading and writing is in danger of being asked to stay behind next year if he doesn't catch up..
My 12 year old is failing maths despite having a lot of additional help, he tested negative for dyscalculia and is currently been tested for ADHD. He performed just ok in other subjects, slightly below average in a few.
I feel like the teachers and some parents in the school are looking down on them because of that and judge us (my husband and I).
I'm aware that a lot of this is connected to my own pride/ego as my husband and I performed really well at school and currently both have quite highflying/intellectual jobs. I struggle to understand why they have such issues.
I know I should have done more when their issues were first signalled instead of burying my head in the sand and hoping for the best. They now have a lot of extra support, tutoring etc currently but it's simply not enough.
I'm sad I can't even be prouder of their strong /positives sides because of this.
Sad I'm so upset with them.
Overwhelmed because I don't think I can do enough to help them over the holidays. Overwhelmed by the prospect of spending even more money on extra classes that won't bring results fast enough.
I don't know how we can help them, go to work , run a household and still have time for exercise/hobbies.
I'm ashamed when other people talk of how smart their kids are...
I worry that they will always be judged through the prism of their academic capabilities and that people won't appreciate them for how funny, creative and kind they actually are.
Please don't roast me, just needed to vent a bit and I can't talk to any of my friends about this as they all seem to have gifted kids.