Would you report ongoing neighbour intimidation and comments outside your flat?

[Sloneranger97]

Sorry for the rant ! I live in a block of flats and have had ongoing issues with one neighbour and people connected to their household. There has been repeated noise, strange behaviour around my door, and comments made when they or their visitors pass my flat.

I have a door camera because there has been odd behaviour in the building generally, but since having it I have noticed a wider pattern. Certain people seem to comment when passing my door, mention the camera, give intimidating looks, or behave in a way that feels like they are trying to provoke a reaction.

What makes it confusing is that things were not always bad. I have previously been civil with this neighbour and even helped them with things, so the change in behaviour feels strange. It seems to flare up at certain times and I am now feeling very uncomfortable.

There have also been comments made near my door about me possibly reporting things, people pointing towards my door, and comments being made about my household. I am also concerned that things may be being said to visitors about me or my household that are not accurate, as the behaviour from visitors sometimes feels hostile before any interaction has taken place. There have also been other comments which I feel may have had a racial undertone. I cannot prove every part of it, but the overall pattern is making me feel targeted and uneasy.

I also care for a vulnerable family member at home, so I am very conscious of safety and do not want things escalating. I feel like I cannot properly relax in my own home anymore, and I am honestly starting to feel like I want to leave because of how uncomfortable I feel.

Me and two other neighbour’s previously raised a noise issue with housing, but I was unhappy with how it was handled. It seemed to be closed down quite quickly after the neighbour denied it, which made me feel like the wider pattern was not properly considered.

There is more context, and there are other concerning things regarding this neighbour that I have become aware of, which have made me feel even more uncomfortable about the wider situation.

Would you see this as targeted behaviour or am I overthinking it? What would you do in this situation? Would you report it again, contact the police, or just keep logging everything?

Sounds like a horrible situation OP.

I would definitely keep logging everything. Do you also save recordings from your camera of worrying behaviour?

Does your council have an Anti social behaviour unit? If so I would raise the issues with them. If not I would definitely talk to the police to make them aware of the situation and hopefully they would give you advice.

Thank you , I previously went to the HA regarding a noise complaint but I feel it was poorly conducted, they seemed to have believed every lie that came out of the neighbours mouth!

Im worried about the reoccurring patterns now with this neigbour, so wondering if going to the police for advise will help..

yes , i have been keeping logs and footage of this behaviour !

Well the behaviour you have described sounds like an attempt to intimidate you. I dont want to be alarmist but I do think you should talk to the police about it. Especially as you say you have a vulnerable family member.

I know it's a really difficult situation. I have problems in my home with people in the neighbourhood. Often the individual incidents seem insignificant but when added up together they form an actual campaign. You say that you are noticing a pattern of behaviour and if you can demonstrate this to the police then hopefully they will be able to either do something or offer advice. If yoh have the logs of the behaviour, and importantly can show them footage then that should mean they have to take what's happening seriously.