To make a complaint about very senior spine consultant

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I'm in my late 30s. Loads of issues with my knees and numerous surgeries. I also have scoliosis. Over years the knee issues have really affecting my back. I'd been managing fine (lost a little weight, pilates, lots of walking) until I started having kids. I got a really bad episode of sciatica in my last pregnancy and ended up in A&E after my osteopath sent me there suspecting cauda equina. Thankfully it was just a couple of disc bulges and annular tears and I was able to get back onto my feet after a couple of weeks.

I've put on about 10kg since my pregnancies (BMI 26.5). I'm still walking loads (I don't drive) and working part time. I am a single parent to two toddlers, one of whom has additional needs. I ended up getting referred (on the NHS) to see a very very senior spine consultant at a private hospital. Anyway, he arranged an MRI and I had my follow up this week. Coincidentally, I've had a really bad case of sciata this week so was glad to be seeing him for a discussion about my MRI results. His clinic was running 30mins behind. When he called me in, he didn't actually look at me walking towards his room (I was limping). He also didn't notice my discomfort while sitting or my altered gait. I was out of the room within 60 seconds. He just told me my scans were fine, I needed to lose weight, he joked about sending me to bootcamp and throwing away the key, sorting out my diet. He suggested I walk more. He doesn't know I am a single parent, that I don't drive so walk a lot, that I have a child with additional needs. I am also awaiting knee surgery which I mentioned but he didn't seem bothered about that. He suggested both times I saw him that I should be attending with my husband without even establishing I was married/had a partner.

I am visibly Muslim woman. I am also a postgraduate professional working in healthcare. I find his manner with me so poor. He was dismissive, seemed to hold many unconscious biases. His clinical opinion aside (which I am definitely not challenging as a consultant of his experience), would IBU to make a complaint about the consultation?

Thanks!

If OP is Asian then she is obese. The categories are not the same across all ethnicities.

She isn't. She stated she is European.

I see, I apologise. I made an assumption incorrectly.

This. I will not leave the room until my questions have been answered if I've waited a year to see you you will give me 10 minutes of your time to answer my questions and if this appears to be a problem i would say is there a reason you are not answering my questions/avoiding my questions. If you are unable to answer my questions who can. I would also point out I've waited a year to see you so you could answer my questions now you're refusing. Its really important to be firm not rude. I also always take a written list of what questions I want the answers to it makes it easier.