To not want them to work here!!!

[Lemontreeinthecity]

Looking for advice on a work situation. I ran into someone o know recently who said “oh my sister applied for a position with your company etc etc”…
Said position was advertised as a temp position and they are interviewing a few people.
Only thing is this position overlaps with mine a lot and can be in charge a little bit.
hiring manager said recently liked this sister etc.
i do not like the person I ran into and want to keep my work and personal life seperate do not want said sister working here.
should I say anything to hiring manager? Said sister I know is much younger than me too which would be gruelling.
generally unhappy how the company are dealing with this latest recruitment as the job ad made is sound desperate and the people applying g haven’t the skills essentially.
help!

You can’t tell your manager not to hire someone because you don’t like their sister! Why don’t you apply for the job yourself to try to stop her getting it?

Unless what you want to say to HR is to give in your own notice, no. You cannot interfere just because you want to keep your lives separate.

Your post is unclear, why would her working there be gruelling, just because she is younger than you?

When you say, ‘can be in charge a little bit’, what do you mean? You would be in charge of her? Or she (as a temp) would be in charge of you?

She would be working a longer shift and technically there longer, know what’s happening before I arrive etc.

I say give the sister a chance rather than give up your job!

She might be totally different to her sibling. And share less at work, if that’s the underlying worry.

It will be okay.

You can't stop someone getting a job because you have a social connection with their family. You will have to find a way of working together if she is successful in her application.

No you can’t do this. You’d look really bad to your manager.

This is bat shit crazy! Oh course you can't interfere with the recruitment process, unless you want to end your employment?

You can’t say anything. Just hope she doesn’t get the job!

No you can't interfere with the recruitment process it would be hugely unprofessional, especially just because you don't like their sister and they are younger than you. There's no rule that someone younger than you can't be more senior, the older you get the more likely it is to happen if you don't progress the ladder yourself.

You need a better reason than "I don't like her sister" to stop someone getting a job. Why are you jealous? Is it a more senior role? Why don't you apply for it then?

And?

So?

I don't understand what your problem is?

You're worried about her knowing more stuff than you as she will be there more hours?

If the job advert is misleading and people don't have the skills, surely they won't get through the interview.

You would sound unprofessional and a bit unhinged if you went to hiring manager to state you don't like someone, who's sister has applied for a job so please don't employ them.

Just keep out of it, see how it goes if she gets the job, and if you're the one with a problem, either work it out or take steps to leave

I think she means “galling” - ie she would be embarrassed to be managed by someone younger than her. Sounds a bit immature.

You need to accept that you can’t control who they employ. The sister might be great.

Yes, this.

What was the OP actually planning to tell the recruitment person? ‘I don’t like how you wrote the job ad, and I want you not to consider a particular candidate (who presumably is qualified for the position) because I want to keep my work and social life separate and not to be managed by someone younger’?

You absolutely cannot say 'don't hire this person because I don't want you to'. That is completely biased and in no way acceptable.

If she is employed, you will have to get on with it. If there are any actual issues, then you can go through official channels. Otherwise your options are to get on with it or look elsewhere.

I do get why you don't like it, but you just have to let this one play out.

OP - I get it can be a bit uncomfortable when two worlds collide but remember you will both be at work and on your best possible behavior. You might find you get along really well, if she gets the job be a friendly face and she will appreciate that and the relationship will bloom.

You can’t stand say anything , and you sounds a bit pathetic about the situation

How do you know the people applying haven’t got skills?

If you want to do the management role, why don’t you apply? Otherwise, I’d leave it to your company to sort out; you can’t tell them who to hire or not hire with no good reason.