What is it really like to have a large female friendship group?

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I’ve never had a massive group of girl friends, e.g. to bring together for a hen do or something like that.

It looks so fun from the outside. I’m wondering what it’s like from the inside - are you all equally close or are some people closer to each other, for example, and how do you manage any disagreements?

I have quite a lot of friends but they are separate groups.

I don’t have this either, by choice, not my cup of tea. But based on the one group of school mums who I individually know well, it seems to involve a lot of bitching about everyone behind each other’s backs, the occasional cat fight, then periodic spa days and going out for afternoon tea for birthdays. 😂 I laugh so much seeing the photos of them in their robes at the spa with prosecco, knowing that just yesterday they were all gossiping to me about how much they despise each other!

I do have a large group (10) and we get together for a weekend away about twice a year. I absolutely adore these weekends, we have a great time.

Outside of this, I meet up with some of them or different friends. I feel very lucky.

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Thanks for replying everyone ❤️

@CarrotParsnipOnion how did you all meet, if you don’t mind my asking, and what are the dynamics like in your group? Do you feel closer to some members than others, for example, and have there ever been fallings out within the group? ETA the weekends away together sound lovely.

@mindutopia that’s interesting, it sounds like not a very sincere group of friends. Do they look close and supportive from the outside (so to someone who didn’t know what you do, for example)? The images I see look compelling but I guess it’s difficult to know how genuine they are.

That’s really unfortunate but most aren’t like that. I have two groups of female friends plus various individual female friends and female friends as part of mixed male/female groups and there’s never any bitching or fall outs we all rub along nicely and deal with any disagreements like adults. Have lots of fun and support each other through life’s ups and downs, what’s not to like. Some are closer than others within the groups, inevitably but it doesn’t matter.

This comes across as quite bitter and unpleasant and actually, quite catty 😂

Not all groups of women are "catty". My female friendship group is kind, supportive, interesting and huge fun to be around.

Same, I see people in these smaller groups or individually, and we don’t really have disagreements.

I would like this too! I do have some larger groups of friends (usually people I play, or have played, sports with), but we don’t meet that often.

That’s a shame that one particular group behave in this way but it doesn’t mean everyone is like that :)

I’ve got various friendship groups and individuals and nobody behaves like this, I wouldn’t be friends with them if they did.

I had a quite large female group of friends and I loved them and loved being part of the group but it was a nightmare with various ones bitching and not getting on and fall outs, so now I see people separately on my own and can’t be bothered with groups anymore. Sometimes groups work beautifully and other times they just don’t it depends on the people in the groups. I think smaller groups work better

Yes nice to have good friends. My dd on a sports team a few strong personalities and bitching but some nice girls too ages late 20s. I prefer smaller meetups. My colleague has no friends but thats not ideal either.

The opportunity has come up but I dodge huge meet up groups as an adult. The biggest girl gang I ever had was 5 of us, all brilliant but from school and we scattered. We did all stay in touch but it’s a geographical nightmare, we met up till mid thirties when we started to have children. One moved to America and one moved to Australia. One has sadly died, I’m actually seeing one of them today, it’s been 3 years since we last saw each other.

I belong to a great women’s walking group who now do holidays away, I just don’t want to spend entire weekends or weeks as such a huge group. I also don’t drink these days and alcohol is a bit dominant in lots of these big group get togethers.

Same.