Do you have any advice for me?

[Littledaffodil2]

We have quite a bit on this year, we are buying a new house (selling our current home) and husband is changing jobs. There are also lots of other small things that just make starting a family this year a bit of a non-starter so we have decided, we will start ttc in the new year.

Some people have said to just start now as it could take us a while to conceive but I’d rather not risk getting pregnant right now as it would be difficult, not impossible but I wouldn’t want to try and juggle everything and risk being sick constantly etc.

All that said, I’m struggling with the wait and want to know what people would recommend we do in this limbo stage. We travel often, go out constantly, and overall, have lovely lives but I think feeling so ready for a baby now is making me feel a bit unfulfilled by those things. I sound like a spoiled brat! I think I would benefit from your suggestions. What do you wish you had done before getting pregnant/ having a baby? If you were ready but knew it was impractical at this stage, what helped you keep things in perspective?

How old are you?

My advice would be if you're on the pill or another hormonal method come off it now and use condoms for the next few months. It took my cycle ages to get back to a regular pattern after years of being on the pill and a year of TTC before success.

Depends on your age if your 21 wait if your 40 don't wait

I’m 32

There's never a perfect time. Next year will be busy too, and the one after that. And as you say, there's no guarantee it'll happen quicky for you, and the older you are the more chance there is of infertility or a difficult pregnancy.

TTC or even being pregnant doesn't stop you from going out or travelling, still living your life to the full. The only change you'd probably need to make at this stage is cutting down on alcohol of you're a big drinker.

In fact I think it's better that you do continue enjoying yourself and just letting it happen when it happens, rather than overly focusing on TTC and letting it dominate your life and be a constant source of anxiety.

Best of luck!