Just don't know

[Sayingithowitis]

I am tired but not sure if unreasonable?
So as an example only (this is regular behaviour)
Tonight dh had hiccups asked for help...we were busy dishing up for others
He stropped to shower and now refusing to eat as no help instead of wait. He didn't eat last night as not cooked to his liking...I am heavily quilted for this always. Am I overreacting...just feel drained trying to please all

Help with what??

To get rid of hiccups blocking eara to drink water

What were you blocking?

You're heavily quilted???

If he’s refusing to eat then just let him carry on and not eat. He’s being ridiculous, ignore him and eat your own dinner

Surely an adult hiccuping is not urgent?
His eating is not your responsibility.

Who cares if he doesn't eat?

Surely he could hold his own breath. This is frankly ridiculous.

I'm so confused.

Are you the poster who learned to cook "ingredients"?

WTF are you on about.

No but thanks...sorry I asked ...just wanted perspective...will delete

Thanks for nothing will delete

How?

I do not know if and how I am unreasonable even if I am. Married a long time but always happened..tired of pretending but is it me

Oh love. I think people don’t understand what you’re trying to say - would you like to try again to say what it is you want to?

No thanks. Thanks for being nice

It sounds like you’re at the end of your tether OP. It’s draining when you feel you’re always the one that bears the brunt of everything. Have you ever tried to talk to him about how you’re feeling? X

Your husband sounds like a child AND like he thinks he's your dad.

You didn't immediately drop everything to help him with a hiccups "cure" - so he stropped off to the shower. (Child)

He guilts you when you don't pander to him, or cook things to his exacting standards. (Thinks he's the most important - 50s dad).

It really isn't you, it's him.

There is nothing more cringeworthy than a stroppy, petulant, peevish, manchild.

Let him stew - and go hungry. The llmore you react the more he'll behave this way.

I don't think you're being unreasonable. He should deal with his own hiccups and stop finding reasons to make you feel miserable. If this is what he is like a lot of the time, it would be worth calling into your local branch of Women's Aid as he might be abusive. Is hard to tell from what you've written.

I am 65 and never in my life have I known any adult ask for help with hiccups.