"Not at the moment"

[Blingblangblongblung]

We had a guest arrive on Friday afternoon. He is a perpetual bachelor type who is a bit like Peter Pan

This way was fun when we are all young but he really has not changed at all. We in contrast have a family (the youngest of whom is his godson so you can see we were very close) but we seem to be having exactly the same we seem to be having the same conversations almost exactly as we did 20 years ago. We in contrast have 3 children our eldest who has some very serious exams coming up, another various matches to be at and the third his godson.

When he arrived his first words were that he had rejected something he could have seen as a better offer before plonking himself down for a photo in our rather fabulous garden and posting it on instagram with a boastful caption. Since he has been here though he he has just eaten, drunk and slept in said garden. Stuck to his phone as him being in our presence was kind of an honour. He has also not really engaged with said godson. I asked him earlier to play something with him and his response was "not at the moment"....

He is also still not approaching anywhere near leaving. "At some point" apparently..,...

Gahh!

Sorry OP I was prepared to be very sympathetic until the our rather fabulous garden comment!

You have obviously been close friends with this man for a very ling time. Surely your friendship means you could actually talk honestly to him and tell him, politely, it's not convenient for him to stay any longer.

He sounds very comfortable in your company as should be a very old friend. He's taking the opportunity to relax and it doesn't sound like children are his thing, why was he a god parent? Have you suggested going anywhere or is he just meant to play with the kids?

You’ve agreed to host a guest without specifying how long for? YABU for that alone.

Sounds like you have different expectations for the weekend. He wants to chill and you want him entertaining his godson.

Sorry I didn't mean to sound arrogant about the garden genuinely. It's more that you don't basically arrive somewhere and say to their face that you had a better offer before posting pictures about where you are to garner likes that life is just jolly.

And of course I don't care that he relaxes but it's middle of term time, we have a busy life and he isn't really doing anything. It's like having an extra child. And he hasn't seen his godson for quite a while so I thought he might want to participate and spend time with him. And visitor certainly got grumpy when he thought he might not be given the role.

Oh well I am clearly unreasonable. He's just booked a train for 6.30pm so I only have until then to stew in my own juice.

@SoScarletItWas I asked yesterday just what the plans were but I just got a "oh well, I will decide at some point. I do have to work on Monday morning" before he wandered off.

Sounds like you didn't choose wisely on the godfather front.

@ginasevern I would agree. Glad to say he has another godfather who is.

Glad to hear it. And I wouldn't be inviting this "old friend" round again any time soon.

@ginasevern i won’t be. As it was this time it was more of a ‘are you open to guests on x weekend’. On repeat before we found something that as mildly suitable which might have implied that we didn’t have much time. The answer next time will just be ‘no, sorry.’

Good plan. He sounds insufferable!