I feel totally cheated of things that people consider to be normal aspects of a relationship.
My partner of a decade has PIED. Always had it. Lost his first long-term relationship because of it. It means very infrequent sex aided by pornography and Viagra. It needs to be initiated by me every time. He also has delayed (read - never) ejaculation unless on his own. He has promised to solve this for years but it never happened.
I don't expect him to make me feel attractive (he does not even try) but I get male attention outside the relationship which saves my self-esteem.
Now, the persistent issue: it's not possible to get pregnant with DE. A few years ago I paid for IVF and we have a kid together. He is a decent dad. Attempts to create a second kid, also funded by me, did not work.
I don't have any money left for IVF and feel completely stupid and grieving. The only way to try again would be to take out a loan and he is not willing to do that. This is understandable because it's a serious financial commitment. But also I am not sure any more that a man so passive, so indecisive, so incapable of solving a fundamental issue actually deserves to procreate. The only reason he has a kid is because I made it happen. I paid for the process, and I made the kid with my body. He cannot do the very basic thing that leads to creating a baby!
I look at men providing for their women, loving their women, making their women feel attractive, men being able to actually MAKE a child, and feel stupid. That I could not find someone capable of doing it naturally. That I did not find someone proactive. I could have been more picky all these years ago!