Skye's Fred

[skyeisthelimit]

I wasn't going to start another thread due to the lack of posters now but then I thought I would post one final thread seeing as DD turned 18.

so, DD turned 18 at the end of March. She had a lovely day, carvery lunch with my immediate family and a couple of her friends. My non drinking DD drank 4 alcoholic drinks that day, encouraged by her friends, so I guess the non drinking days are over...

Last week we went to see Starlight Express in London, this was part of DD's birthday present, as she has wanted to see it for 2 years now. We went there and back in a day which is very tiring for me, and after all those steps on the tubes, I could barely walk for 2 days afterwards. Our train back was cancelled , but they got us on the next one which was lucky because they cancelled the one after that. London seems so far away, but it's only a 2 hour trip on the direct train from a station about 1 hour away.

DD has also now firmed her Uni and has chosen Plymouth over Falmouth. She now needs to get a Merit to get into either one, so fingers crossed.

We have booked a room in on site Uni halls for her, and done the DSA assessment. She has been granted mentors which will help with her work planning for her assessments.

She felt that Plymouth has the better course and facilities. She also felt that while Falmouth was ok, it was still a bus ride to get anywhere (Penryn Campus), at a cost of £20 a week for pass and too much like home where you can't get anywhere without a bus. She wants something totally different to here, and while Plymouth is a city, it is also a small city and everything she could want is within walking distance.

It feels like the end of an era now, 14 years just me and her, and if she gets in to Uni, it will be just me and the cat most of the time from September.

I am looking into stuff in the area, there is a women's group, a bit like the WI, not sure if that's for me. There is also a crafting studio opened up where I have enjoyed doing glass fusing, so I may look into going there more, or volunteering at the weekend.

I may be talking to myself here as only a couple of Freds have posted on the last few threads, but this post was just something I wanted to do for myself.

I haven't seen your other threads but it sounds like you have a lovely DD and a good relationship with her. It's hard letting go and watching them spread their wings, isn't it? You feel proud of them but desperately sad to see them leave. I'm sure she will be home in the holidays wanting her home comforts and mum cooking her favourite dinners! Mine did and they did text me often to ask how to make certain meals and ask advice about housekeeping!

Give yourself a big pat on the back for having done such a great job - you have given her roots and wings and the world is her oyster ☺️

You have time now to try some new activities, look after yourself and make some new friends maybe?

Hello Skye!

Eighteen - what a wonderful age, and what a super job you've done. Fingers crossed DD will get into the course she wants and will thrive.

I have missed years of previous threads, sadly.

DS finishes his medical residency in June and is getting married in July. He has a job lined up., thank goodness, much closer to home than where he was stationed for the three years of his residency. Future DIL is the bees' knees.

Hi math, nice to hear from you, and great news about DS and I am glad that you like DIL.

So pleased to hear your dd is doing well Skye. Sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders.
Wishing her all the best for her exams and hoping she settles in quickly at Plymouth.
Dd is still at home but it is strange not to be needed. Hope you take some time for yourself.

Math, pleased to hear your ds is doing well too. Great news about your DiL to be.

My dd will finish her mechanics apprenticeship in a couple of moths and be a fully qualified mechanic.

Strange to think a lot of our children were small when this thread started and now they're adults making their own way in the world.

Skye, hope you pop back in from time to time to let us know how your dd is getting on.

Great news about your DD, Row

Will she move out when she gets a job, or live at home for a while?

Thanks, @mathanxiety .
She was all for moving out till a house down the road came up for rent at £750 a month. She had no idea how expensive life is. We've always taken rent since she started the apprenticeship at 16 but the first 18 months we gave it back to put towards her car and it's only just gone up, but it's still only £50 a week which we're putting towards family holidays. Think we've got her at home for a bit yet😁

I suspect adhd, she struggles to organise her time, her things and herself so I think she's done bloody well to go from being at school to being in the workplace with adults. Proud parents.

Its lovely to see we've done great jobs with our kids.