Mediumship fail left feeling crap

[LittleMG]

So I don’t generally believe in mediums always been a bit ‘oh interesting’ on Most Haunted or stuff. Anyway, I lost my mum in November and to say I’m devastated is an understatement and trying to believe some part of her is still out there helps keep me going. (I’m crying writing this it’s so bloody hard) twice now I’ve put pictures of her, perhaps foolishly, on fb groups that claim to be able to contact them. Sounds ridiculous writing it yes I know. Anyway twice now they’ve come back with stuff that is such a load of rubbish. I mean things that you can tell looking at the picture. It’s just so daft. I’ve not told anyone in real life, I feel so so sad that there is nothing. From now until the end of time itself I will never experience my mum she was so funny and so just right. I did love her. Don’t know why I’m writing this but I’m so disappointed and I can’t tell anyone.

Don't feel embarrassed. You are grieving and these people prey on vulnerable people and grief.
They have proven they are frauds. If people could talk to the dead it would be a billion pound business.

I'm sorry you are suffering even more because of unscrupulous people. Maybe block all the groups and definitely don't hand money over to anyone x

Oh sweetheart. I'm so sorry.
Those people can't contact your mum and no matter what they do it's all fake. They leech onto your sorrow and pain. They can't help you.

I do understand the desperation of you wishing you could speak to her. It doesn't feel like it will now but I promise you it will get a little easier day by day. Suddenly you'll realise you haven't thought of her that day. I lost my lovely mum in 2016 and it does get easier, or at least further away, and you can start to fill your heart with other lovely things that will slowly help you.

This is grief and it's completely normal to feel how you feel.
Good luck (and please stop going on those vulture sites, they will only make you sadder)

I know. It’s such a load of shit. Thank for replying it’s just so painful knowing that part of your life is over and it’s completely gone forever. Funny part is my mum would have completely poo poo’d she’d have told me not to be so bloody stupid and to get on with things. She always knew what to say. I know it’s the way of things but life feels so very hard and cruel.

You’re not alone OP. I paid someone to help me contact my deceased parent. It was all lies and deceit. I was both devastated and embarrassed. I’m so sorry for you loss.

Don’t feel bad @LittleMGyou’re not the first and you won’t be the last. I don’t believe in anything like this, I’m the most cynical person ever, but I went to see a psychic after my dad died. It was a combination of grief, devastation and desperation. Of course it was a load of horseshit, nothing she told me was even remotely close to the truth.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you find some peace.

I’m so sorry. As others have said, you’re not alone. Grief is so cruel. I prefer to try and believe, just so it feels less endless, if that makes sense.

Everything you think of your mum she is there with you. You don’t need anyone external to experience that. Her love lives on in you and your take her with you every step you take.

Your emotions are understandably strong and deep. I'm sorry for the loss of your mum.

The power of that love is what drives these frauds. They use it for their own gains. I'm so sorry they have lied. I hope you find peace.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s so tough. I’ve lost a lot of people I loved and tried several mediums. Other than one who said a few things that seemed authentic but I’m not really sure, they were all rubbish. I read a book called If The Spirit Moves You by Justine Picardie about a woman trying and mostly failing to connect with someone she lost and I found it weirdly comforting. Definitely worth reading.

In my own experience after many years of trying, my best results have come from just lying quietly alone in bed at night and asking my loved one for a clear and specific sign, something that cannot be coincidental. When I’ve had the sign it’s given me great comfort to feel like my loved one is present and listening. Maybe it’s been coincidence but when it’s happened repeatedly when I’ve asked, it’s made me feel better.

I hope you can find some comfort too. Grief is the longest, hardest journey.

I don’t think the kind of mediums that are on Facebook are going to real/very good.

You have to pay top money and get on a long wait list to get an excellent medium.

Look at Matt Fraser or Tyler Henry on YouTube. They are fantastic. They are few and far between though, but real ones definitely exist

I saw one after dm died. She was uncanny.

Different location, no way of knowing me.

She knew names, ages, locations. I didn’t tell her anything. She’s pretty famous round me.

Thank you all who have replied it has actually made me feel better to know I’m not the only person who feel like this. Thank you so much x

Try the spiritual church OP. Sometimes messages come through to the audience that are very specific and not a load of guesswork that would apply to anyone. It only costs £2 or whatever donation to go so you won’t be ripped off if you don’t like it. Maybe you’ll get a message there.

These people are awful con artists. I hope you can seek therapy to help deal with your bereavement. I'm so sorry for the loss of your lovely mum. X

Therapy is a good idea.
So sorry for your loss.
Your love for your mum shines through your posts. You will always miss her but the grief does get easier to bear as the years go by.
Take care. She lives on in you.

"In the yearning and searching phase of the Four Phases of Grief, the grieving person intellectually understands their loved one has died, but they continue to search for them" taken from whatisyourgrief.com

So it's normal to yearn and search for your loved one, eventhough you know they've gone. Don't beat yourself up, it's natural. But don't let yourself be taken advantage of. What would you say to a close friend who was in your situation instead?

Can you please share her name?

Hang on

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I would so love to believe, I saw a Medium at the weekend and although he seemed to really hit on a few in the audience, the majority he was way off the mark and it was a bit insulting to see how he was ‘reading’ people to try and find something to trick them with.

I am so sorry, OP. I am very cynical but still talk to the pictures of my mum and dad that live on my kitchen windowsill. I like to believe that they are still 'out there' somewhere and if they have the ability to, they will be watching over me. I don't need to have proof of that from some medium, I feel it in my heart.

Wishing you peace.

Don’t feel crap. Feel proud of yourself that despite your grief you didn’t do what many people do and twist reality to fit what these awful charlatans say-you were honest and brave enough to stick to the truth.
Your mum is always with you in your memories, and in the parts of you that are like her and that you learned from her. My mother died many years ago, but every time I make bread it’s as if she’s beside me helping knead the dough.