Does anyone interpret dreams?

[Greebosmum]

I had a really vivid dream last night. I seemed to be moving into an old dilapidated house. I had some small children with me but they weren't mine.

I was having trouble finding somewhere to put the freezer. Eventually found a room which was more like a cave so plugged it in there after shifting some filing cabinets. There was a door in this room which had been wallpapered over but the knob kept rattling as if someone was trying to open it from the other side.

As I was spooked I took the children outside to a park. There were strange aircraft flying about, they had no tailplane, were just rounded at the back.

At some point a knife fight broke out which is when I woke up.

I have been trying to figure out if this has any meaning or if it is a combination of curry and cider. Grateful for any insights.

This says to me that you’re weighing up the compatibility or otherwise of a significant relationship.

I would be looking at long-buried emotions and parts of yourself that were suppressed in childhood, possibly linked to abuse. Feelings and questions you believed you had dealt with somehow but which actually still need processing. Inner conflict that's linked to a troubled past. Your unconscious is ready to start processing this dissonance between your personality (which was to some extent constructed to cover up or avoid pain) and what was repressed. Deep down you know it affects your life now and is holding you back.

Have you had any therapy @Greebosmum ? If you're a parent, are any of your children a similar age to the children in the dream?

Also OP it's likely that there's a pattern of postponing dealing with problems, telling yourself you'll look at them at some point but not getting around to that. Meanwhile, you add more unresolved issues to the 'freezer' and you might even be doing this in relation to your children somehow. In some way, this tendency or ineffective strategy is relevant at the moment.

These are just my thoughts. They could be completely off-beam. Only you will know if they are!

That is really interesting. Abusive marriage not childhood. My children are adults but one has very poor mental health which takes up a lot of my time and energy. Good food for thought there, thank you.

Interesting - I wonder, if you’d had a good childhood, why you would have got into or tolerated for a while an abusive marriage? Often childhood neglect or abuse sets a pattern for accepting similar in adulthood.

Some rules of thumb for dreams that I’ve found helpful…

…. people in dreams are often parts of yourself, like aspects of your personality or past you that needs attention.

…the feelings in dreams are significant. Your brain is trying to find a home for these (real life) feelings and process them (or put them away on the right shelf - if you’ve ever seen the film, ‘Inside Out’!)

….we all absorb a lot more collective consciousness/understanding about metaphors and symbols etc than we realise.

It could be there’s a part of yourself that needs some attention (the one rattling on the door), that there’s a corner of your mind or life that needs clearing out and tidying up (the dilapidated house), and there’s some past you or past feelings that you need to welcome and take ownership for (the children who aren’t yours) and process (the filing cabinet and freezer). The idea of facing these children and processing things has maybe spooked you (did you feel fear about the planes and knife fight before waking up?)