Very strange dream mirroring reality

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I just have to write this down somewhere because I can't stop thinking about it or make sense of it. This happened a few weeks ago.

On the Friday night I had a horrible dream. I woke up at exactly 4am, startled fully awake by this dream. In my dream, I was performing CPR on an old man. I felt huge panic as it wasn't working. I was surrounded by people. During the CPR, I looked down and his face was covered in blood. There was blood pouring from his mouth and I could taste it. It was really upsetting.

It stayed with me over the weekend. On the Monday lunchtime I was chatting to a colleague and friend. She told me she'd had an awful weekend. Her elderly relative had died. He had a medical episode in the middle of the night on Friday and his wife had to perform CPR on him in the bathroom. This already gave me chills. She then said that it was particularly awful as he started bringing up copious amounts of blood then became unconscious again so she was giving CPR with them both covered in blood. It was very traumatic for the wife and an ambulance came to help her at 4am when they unfortunately said he had died.

How weird is this? I could barely respond I was so freaked by the coincidence of how similar this situation was to my dream, and the fact that this lady was going through what I was dreaming at the exact same time!

Right ho, you do know that dreaming is your brains way of processing information. We now know that a key function of dreaming, especially in REM sleep, is to establish or review memories. And memories are only created when there is a strong emotional response. Think about the strongest memories you have, they’ll be the ones associated with strongest emotions. Even elephants who never forget, are likley processing memories on when certain food or water sources are based on at least simple emotional response form pleasure.

so, this dream, Like all dreams, is your brains way playing around with emotional responses based on an experience you’ve already had. Could be that day, a while ago, or even years ago and it is playing around almost delusionally to test emotional responses. This dresm maybe directly connected to something you’ve seen (tv) or heard or read or even something that came into your head as a “fear”. your brains just messing with it to see if it’s worth a memory or chuckle it out and clean up hard drive memory space.

the fact your friend had same dream? Probability. That’s it. Doing CPR IS a common enough thing on tv, conversations, media etc or even actual past experience even not first hand. so it’ll be a common dream . In any one night (and we all generally go into REM Sleep along a similar night sleeping pattern unless we suffer with sleep disorders) there will be literally 100,000s people having a dream around CPR around the world. Same as all those other common dream with teeth falling out, being outside exam rooms, being chased etc etc. In your lifetime you will have millions of dreams. The only ones you’re,ever are ones you wake up in middle of, usually because you’ve been disturbed or they’ve produced such deep emotional responses that it wakes you. So, just on laws of probability you will find people having same dreams as you,ultle times in your lifetime for common experiences like doing CPR.

but then, you’ve almost certainly won’t want to believe this. It’s called science. Given I assume you’ve posted here as you believe in paranormal and have already decided that dreams are some weird supernatural thing e.g. a predication on the future or whatever shit you do believe. No accounting for ignorance if that’s what you do think.

If you do know that dreaming is a vital fundamental physiological necessity to our survival, and that of all mammals (possible other species but harder to tell) then suggest you post in in a more sensible board where you’ll get sensible answers?

the fact your friend had same dream?
I dont think the friend dreamed it

The friend didn’t have the same dream tho. What the friend told OP was what happened in reality

@Marshbird you should at least read the OP before making such patronising comments

Ok, I misread. now reread, Sorry.
Accept that given that it wasn’t a good response

Doesn’t alter that it’s probability. still.
doesn’t alter she’s posting on paranormal as opposed to another board to talk about the coincidence of this. Just in terms of probablity

I would once have scoffed a bit at stories like this, but I don't any more.

Not since the time I was driving along a motorway and could see a block of flats in the distance. From out of nowhere, in my mind's eye, I saw a plane crash into the block of flats. It was quite unnerving and I had to force myself to not think about it.

Got home and didn't dwell any more on it until I switched the telly on that evening and saw on the main news that a plane had crashed into a block of flats in the Netherlands. It had happened at the exact time I would have been driving along the motorway and passing those flats.

I'd done that journey hundreds of times over the years, and never before had I ever imagined anything like it. The one time I did, it was happening in real life several hundred miles away. It was El Al Flight 1862 which crashed in Amsterdam in 1992 (I just googled to check).

God what a horrible response @Marshbird
Only posted in paranormal as thought it would be the best place for it, otherwise what's the point in having separate topic boards. I haven't ever posted in this topic before, I searched to see if there was one because I thought posting it in chat or aibu would go badly but never mind, it did anyway.

@theboffinsarecoming
Thanks for sharing, that is really unnerving isn't it!

Wow, that's weird and very spooky!

There are lots of things that happen where there doesn't appear to be an explanation for it, rational or otherwise. I love hearing about stuff like this and have a real fascination with this kind of weird stuff.

I have a theory that when we are dreaming, we sometimes visit people who are experiencing times of stress. I’ve had about 5 of those types of dreams in my life, where I felt like I was someone else, in a horrible situation

I was startled awake one morning having had an awful dream. In it I was on a bridge that crosses a motorway. (I'm frightened of heights so in real life I would never have been there.) On the far side of the bridge, on the wrong side of the railings, I could see a man intending to jump. I didn't recognise this man but he was quite young. In my dream, my plan was to attempt to talk him down but as I started to slowly walk towards him, he jumped. Later that day, I read that in the early hours of the same morning, a man had jumped from a motorway bridge that's just a few miles from where I live. Awful situation.

That is super weird! I would be freaking out.

Could it have been lucid dreaming? That’s the only explanation I can think of

There was a book by Charles Leadbeater (I believe) on that topic where he talked about experiences of astral travel and helping people. Don't remember what the book was called, but it's Leadbeater from the 19th century (and member of the Teosophical Society), not to be confused with the modern writer Leadbeater - in case you want to search his work.

Oh my word- I absolutely will, thanks!

I just looked online, I think it might be this one @pinkissmart
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Invisible-Helpers-Charles-Webster-Leadbeater/dp/1602062781
He also has another one called The Astral Plane, which might be interesting.

Sad coincidence. Your dream sounds like a vivid, anxiety type dream, your colleague’s elderly relative’s death in similar way in the early hours sadly not that unusual.

I Don,t think that anything 5is specific is easily explained.