Did he visit in a dream or was I just missing him?

[Mum29of2]

I hope someone can help me because I'm in distress.

My boyfriend had alot of mental health issues but we loved each other for 14 years and finally ended up being together, I was with with another man but realised I loved him more so I got a divorce and we finally got together. He was always good at communicating to me about his mental health, whenever he was low he would text me and tell me so we could talk about it and get him the help he needed. He started hearing voices recently for months, he was on tablets for it but they didn't seem to be working.
Saturday night I told him he needed to get help the next day immediately because he heard voices again and he was sure I was cheating on him (which I wasn't) he promised he would be would and that he would get better so we could be together forever.
The next day I text him asking for him to tell me all the details as I was at work, he said he would but he wanted to sleep as he hadn't slept all night. By Monday afternoon I hadn't heard anything from him and so I raised the alarm with the police and had a phonecall at midnight from his family telling me he had hung himself. Heartbroken is not the word, my world is smashed.
I spent Monday night/Tuesday morning with his family, when I got home at 5am and went to bed I couldnt sleep due to shock. My boyfriend knew that he was my comfort blanket that no matter how many hours I hadn't slept in he could cuddle me to sleep in under 2mins. I laid in bed and said out loud "there's no point I can't sleep", a couple of minutes later I felt a very heavy feeling around my waist like a weighted blanket but just around my waist like I was being little spooned, my eyes instantly felt heavy and I "fell asleep". When I did there was my boyfriend with a bright light behind him, what looked like sun rays in the background, it was slightly blurry but no doubt he was stood there smiling. No words were said, nothing was done but he just stood there smiling at me. Then I woke up and that cuddled/weighted blanket feeling wasn't there anymore.

My question is do you think he visited me to reassure me he was at peace now or was I just missing him? Im not a spiritual person at all but ever since I had that experience I can't help but think it was really him. I loved him and I know he loved me. Can anyone help? TIA x

I am so so sorry. What a terrible experience.

I would rather think it was him, and wouldn't try to think logically about it. It will be a great comfort to you to think it was him, so I'd go with that. It's what he would have wanted to do if that was possible.

Thankyou, like I say I didn't believe in any of that until now. But just thinking it might have actually been him to confirm to me he wasn't in any pain any longer gives me great comfort!

I believe it was him op.

Different experience, but I feel certain that my late mum has guided hands to help me in the recent past.

Whether you can fully believe or not, I hope this dream brings you peace.

I believe it was him
I've had any similar experiences. I know many people too who would say the same. I am so sorry for your loss.x

Many not any*

I’m so sorry for your heartbreaking loss.
Every atom and particle of him remains in our universe. Literally. So if the electrical energy in your brain brought him to you, rather than a literal visitation, it’s no less important. One way, or another, your love has brought you together in that moment. Take all the comfort you need from that.

I have had two “ visitation” dreams, they were so real and incredibly comforting.
I do think your BF found you to say goodbye.
It will help you through the grieving process.

Some will doubt it but I believe it was him and he was coming to say goodbye and that he was ok. It sounds comforting and like he knew you needed it. I hope you are ok and get any support you need.

If it eases your pain a little, that's all you need to know.

I believe it was him.

I had a similar thing. I was dozing but the shock of someone touching me woke me right up. And then they moved and I felt that while fully awake.
There was nobody there.

If it hadn't happened to me I'd call bullshit. But it did.
If I hadn't woken up up I'd have put it down to dreams. But I was awake. And scared tbh!

Take comfort that he's somewhere he is happy and he came back to let you know alls good with him now.

I believe it was him because what happened is what he would have done.

After my Mum died, she was still in the house for the ten days until the funeral. Even Dad could sense it and he was the least woo person you can imagine.

A few days after Mums funeral. I had a dream that was not like a dream and I saw her as a young healthy woman. She reached out to me, smiled and was gone.

In the dream she was wearing a floaty yellow dress and she never wore yellow but when I mentioned this to my brother who is 18 years older than me, he said that towards the end of the war she made a dress out of a silk parachute and dyed it yellow.

After this dream, Mum was gone from the house. Her spirit had left and, again, Dad noticed this. He said to me that he believed she was at rest now and that is how it felt.

Take it as his reassurance to you that he is safe and well.

He’s letting you know he’s at peace. His spirit can move on into the next realm.
Look after yourself and allow yourself to grieve. In time, your grief will be manageable.

Yes I believe it was him. I've had a similar visitation after a relative's shock death after a car accident they were very young. They were smiling in their dream and they were telling me they were alright after they had crossed over. It felt so real. Relative was touching me in dream / holding my hand. It was hugely comforting and it has always left me feeling they were okay in the after light.

After life! this phone...

The torment in his mind became too much for him to overcome.

I imagine he was torn with feelings of not wanting to go in but not wanting to leave you.

It would be good to think that this was his way of your feeling his presence even though he has passed and to let you know that he's at peace and even though he's not there physically you can still find comfort in remembering his arms around you.

It may happen again or it may not but the comfort you felt that night served to help ease your distress and sadness.

I agree with this. I had a similar experience - nowhere near as tragic as what you describe, but months later a dream with a very distinctive mood (and one I remember even now, decades later - I'm tearing up as I type) where the person came to say a proper goodbye.

Take the comfort your experience offers, and let it be the lasting testament to the bond you shared with this man.

I’ve been going through an incredibly stressful peeriod of my life with a number of health, personal, and work issues. A few weeks ago my dad who passed away two years ago appeared to me and said, clear as day, ‘You’re all right there, wee girl’ in his own voice. I wanted to hug him but thought he would vanish, but then he came and hugged me, and I was able to cry on his shoulder. He was solid as a rock, as he always had been.

While I know in my heart it was a lucid dream, it happened just when I needed it most, and it felt like such a release. Maybe it was him, maybe not, but my brain felt still and calm the next day, like the storm had broken, like he had given given me his great mental strength. So in one sense it doesn’t matter - one way or another your brain found what needed.