bantomm · 31/01/2022 01:26
I am feeling fed up/annoyed. Don't really know which one.
I have a 5 month old son and my sil never asks about him. I know I shouldn't be surprised as she's never properly spent any time having a decent conversation with me, but now that my son is here it just seems to make me cross.
We went to a party last weekend and I noticed that whenever anyone else was holding my ds and I wasn't around, she would then go and either pick him up or go and speak baby to him.
However, whenever I was holding him, she wouldn't come anywhere near me or him.
Prior to my pregnancy she was always asking my mil (behind my back) when my dh and I were going to have a baby. Once we were finally expecting, she never then asked about my pregnancy and doesn't ask me about him now that he's here. However the mil does tell me that she has been asking about my son?? I know this shouldn't annoy me because it's just petty but it winds me up so much!!
I think it annoys me more that she has a 6 year old son and I always made the effort to ask her how she was throughout her pregnancy and made trips to see her and the baby while she was at my in-laws house. Nothing has been reciprocated on her part whatsoever!
Does anyone else experience this and have any ways to help it not get to you?
mdinbc · 31/01/2022 01:40
To me it seems she really isn't that interested in your child other than trying to look like a good aunt in front of others.
Try not to let it get to you. Children will develop relationships with aunts and uncles if there is an effort put in. She doesn't seem that invested, so her loss in the long run.
Think about your relationships with your aunts and uncles, and who you developed a close relation with. You really do reap what your sow when it comes to relationships.
DamnFoolWhoShotHim · 31/01/2022 02:09
Do you think it's you she doesn't properly like? Maybe she wants to see your son but dislikes you?
Or as PP said she's pretending to play the doting aunt.
bantomm · 31/01/2022 09:47
That does make me feel a little better. I know it's not long term as children grow up and know which family members have been around.
bantomm · 31/01/2022 09:49
No I know that she doesn't like me as she never talks to me 😅 she will talk to everyone else in a room except me 😟
MrsSkylerWhite · 31/01/2022 09:50
I’m not keen on holding other peoples baby’s/speaking baby to them.
Different with my own, grandchildren, obviously but I much prefer engaging with toddlers.
Tiny ones scare me a bit, I’m always sure I’ll drop them or something
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