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*Trigger* dreaming of a baby girl after miscarriage

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indecisivewoman81 · 28/10/2020 18:47

I had a miscarriage recently which was pretty traumatic and has left me grieving for a much wanted baby. Since then every night I have been dreaming of a baby girl. She is never mine but I always feel the need to hold her and look after her and I always feel happy and calm in the dream.

Anyone got any ideas what this means? Is this a sign or a message?

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baroqueandblue · 29/10/2020 21:37

In the dream you have positive feelings about holding and caring for someone else's baby. Given that your recent pregnancy ended in the loss of your own baby before you had the opportunity to hold and care for her/him, there might be an important compensatory process happening in your dreams which is necessary for your healing. But I would also suggest that you might be afraid to go more deeply into your feelings of loss and that's also important for moving forward into another conception. Yes you're enjoying the contact and relationship with the dream baby, and there is some solace in that, but the painful reality is that you won't have that experience of the baby who's now lost to you. At least, not in the way you had hoped, expected and envisioned. On the other hand, you can do some grief work around acceptance and deciding how you will maintain an inner connection to your baby, to help give you some closure that will make space for a baby you can carry to full term in the future Flowers

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indecisivewoman81 · 29/10/2020 22:11

@baroqueandblue thank you for your reply. You have given me much food for thought. You might be right; I enjoy the baby in my dreams and probably haven't grieved fully in real life for them. The miscarriage was pretty traumatic and all my emotions have been wrapped up in me; my body in pain and not about really grieving the loss. I find myself thinking about everything and simply pushing the thoughts away or letting myself have a little fantasy that I am still pregnant. Not healthy I know.

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