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The paranormal

Can't picture the future

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Thistledew · 09/06/2020 22:10

I know this sounds batshit. Any explanations, rational or otherwise, gratefully received.

I'm a planner by nature. I like to think things through and picture in my mind's eye how things will be for me in the future. I don't get exact visions of what will happen but can make broad predictions and the pictures I get translate to what happens. I've had this for all the most significant things in my life, including knowing with certainty things like being able to have a particular career, seemingly against all the odds and via a different route than most people would have predicted. It means that most significant events in my life have just 'felt right' as I have been able to envisage them happening.

Since about last October this seems to have switched off. The first thing was a house move, which suddenly did not happen despite my previous clear vision that it would. Then I had a worrying pregnancy- I was utterly unable to visualise having a second child and felt really detached from the whole experience. It wasn't until a few weeks before the birth when we made a quick decision to relocate to move in with family just before lockdown that I suddenly got glimpses again of the future of having a baby. It was as if the reason that I could not picture having a baby at home was because it was never going to happen- I was always going to have the baby somewhere else, and somehow I knew that from the outset of the pregnancy.

I know there is so much uncertainty in the world but I still feel very unsettled that I'm not at all able to envisage what the future holds. I sometimes make connections to what will not be- for example I had absolutely no sense that my DC1 would in fact attend the school back near our old home, even though this seemed inevitable right up until April this year. I also have a sense that the current course of life that we are planning is just not going to happen. But I don't have any sense of what will happen instead.

I know this sounds bonkers, but can anyone relate?

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Modestandatinybitsexy · 09/06/2020 22:23

I can relate in that I always feel this way. I have my children, husband and house. I can imagine the future and wish for what may happen but I don't trust in it. I can't see anything concrete in the world around me to ground myself in beyond my small bubble. I've decided to keep on wishing and hoping and not look too far beyond and wait for things to unfold.

It must be worrying when you've always had a faith which you feel is failing you but even you have said it's not deserted you, it just can't be sure what will happen, some surprises are nice to have. Control the things you can and try not to worry. Worrying does nothing to fix what may come, it just serves to upset the now.

Smellbellina · 20/06/2020 23:54

Stress

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