Do you believe in psychic predictions?
indecisivewoman81 · 08/05/2020 17:56
I guess my question is in the subject heading really.
Backstory: last year I went to see a well known local psychic with a friend. I really only went for them (they were in a difficult place in their life and wanted some reassurance answers). I agreed to go (I am quite interested in things like this so was by no means forced to) and had a reading done. The reading was scarily accurate in some places; but also predicted things that have played on my mind ever since. One of the big things mentioned was having another baby (a boy). I have two children both at primary school and thought I was finished having children; was focusing on my career etc. I joked with the psychic that she must be wrong; we don't have enough money, big enough house etc. She just smiled and said "don't worry about that, you will move house, will always have enough money". The baby will be a happy accident.
I have to say this "prediction" has completely thrown me. And now nearly a year on I can't stop thinking about having another baby. Do I want one. I find myself looking at baby clothes and wondering what it might be like.
The reality is; our house is only big enough for the two we have, and financially we would struggle. I'm also 39 and my Husband older still. And wasn't keen when I told him the psychics predictions. But I can't stop thinking about it.
What do you think? Anyone had a similar experience? Should I just put it completely out of my mind?
sindylouwho · 09/05/2020 08:32
I just take them with a pinch of salt. Are you thinking about a baby because she's planted the seed in your head?
indecisivewoman81 · 09/05/2020 11:39
Yeah I think that's exactly what I am doing but I've become obsessed with the thought and it's driving me mad. Wish I'd never agreed to go in the first place now.
sindylouwho · 10/05/2020 16:34
If it makes you feel better, everytime I've been to see one they've told me I'll have another baby boy. Years later and I haven't. I don't plan on one either
Bertucci · 10/05/2020 16:40
They’re all charlatans and yes, you should put it out of your mind.
Techway · 10/05/2020 17:00
Apparentely 90% of people visit psychics for love/relationship matters so if they can make a pretty good guess if they start talking relationships/family. The other issue is whether or not to move. Once you understand that people are actually more predictable, depending on their age and gender you can see how sometimes the predictions work.
Ignore the reading as it is very common to start feeling broody as you hit the declining fertility years. The reality of last chance saloon hits.
Discuss it with your husband and see if it is something that you both want. However it seems 2 children is probadly where you will settle (and I am not a psychic!)
indecisivewoman81 · 10/05/2020 20:45
Thanks Techway you made me feel better; putting it into perspective.
I think the psychic made me feel like I had no choice int he matter and that fate wasn't in my hands. This has had an oddly powerful stalling effect on me; making me put off things in case we had another baby.
I need to move on and put her "predictions out of my mind" x
baroqueandblue · 18/05/2020 01:31
It's hard to explain this but I think a lot of them want you to see them as having some kind of mysterious power, and they say stuff with a knowing smile but it's often just an ego trip for them. I certainly wouldn't let what she said make you put your life on hold like this. If you want another baby, decide to have one (assuming your DH is also into it) because you have the power of choice, not because some stranger planted a suggestion in your mind. But then what - the bit about the 'big enough' house and plenty of money doesn't come true after all?! You might then regret expanding your family and feel bad because all your kids would have less between them, and maybe diluted opportunities. The world is changing pretty dramatically at the moment and nobody really knows what sort of security we can rely on in the future. So much uncertainty for bringing extra kids into the world.
I bet the psychic forgot to tell you that bit!!
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