My Mum dreamed that her Mum had come to visit..

[StillMedusa]

Mum lives 200 miles away and is over 70 with a rare condition, very vulnerable health and is in total lock down :( She is still having to go for food but is being as careful as she can) She is ringing me and my brother on alternate days 'just in case'

Tonight she rang and she was a bit shaken up.. she'd had a nap, having nothing to do (she's redecorated the whole house already!) and dreamed that her Mum had dropped in unexpectedly for a visit, but told her she couldn't stay but it was lovely to see her. Gran died about 12 years ago.
Mum didn't say so explicitly but it was clear she is worried that Gran was visiting because she'll see her soon :/

I don't know why I'm posting really, for reassurance perhaps. I'm not very woo inclined but when my Dad died it was me that had a freaky technicolour dream about 9 months after he'd gone, where I met him and he was well, and younger, and telling me he was fine and I wouldn't see him any more.... and I really felt it was him telling me he was ok now, so Gran seeing Mum soon isn't a great thought...

I've been having a lot of anxiety dreams since this situation started. It's a stress thing. Don't worry op.

In this time of pandemic, we are all thinking much more about death than we normally would. Many of us are separated from our loved ones in a way we have never been before. It isn't surprising that the subconscious brings these thoughts out in our dreams - it's one way of processing and trying to come to terms with a situation that's alien and seems unreal to many of us.

Your mum dreaming about her mum visiting is probably a way of processing the fact she's missing you and your brother and will be isolated from other friends and family. In the normal way you would be able to visit if needed, and she would have social contact with others, but the lockdown is keeping her apart from everyone - her subconscious is comparing this to the impassable separation she has from her own mother, and drawing on the strength she would have found to cope with her mother's death 12 years ago, to cope with the isolation she is currently experiencing.

The dream is also expressing the very natural emotion that she would like company of any kind, and of course she would like to see her mum again as a visitor in her house, so there is an element of wish-fulfilment - again, wish fulfilment dreams are very common in stressful times, they are your mind's way of comforting you.

I can see why you might interpret your mum's dream as a 'sign' but I honestly think it's a very natural, comforting sort of dream to have in the circumstances, rather than a supernatural, sinister omen.

Probably just that your mum is feeling lonely and worried. I'm sure everything will be fine.

I agree we all think about death much much more.

I've dreamed about my mum all week but it's because the anniversary of her death is coming up (tomorrow) and not (well I hope not anyway!) because she is expecting to see me soon. I would imagine family, and missing family, is on your mum's mind and that is why she has dreamt of her own mother.

Thank you for your replies... especially Pelleas.. it makes perfect sense. I hate that she is so far away.. we usually meet up once a month with my brother in London as we all live 200 miles away from each other, yet are close , and she is very isolated after usually having a very busy retired life!
I may forward your post to my Mum if that's ok, as I think it would help her (and me!)

Yes, of course StillMedusa. I'm 200 miles away from my elderly parents too, so I know something of what you are feeling. They would normally visit for Easter and it's been hard thinking of all the things we should have been doing.

I've been getting dreams about my mum who died a couple of years ago too. I think it's probably normal in anxious times.

I agree with PPs. Every day the news is full of how many people have died. All the things we have done all our lives without much thought are now major issues and either not possible or very stressful. Our sleep is disrupted and nearly everyone is stressed and anxious It’s not surprising that people are reporting more unsettling/weird and frightening dreams. We are living through something we have no experience of and in which even the experts don’t really understand very well. I’d not attach any importance to your DMs dream.

Just wanted to add - can you get in touch with her local area Facebook groups and get someone to do her food shopping for her if she shouldn't really be going out? I've seen lots of messages like that on my local group and there are always people willing to help

Most definitely stress and anxiety from the unusual situation we are all in , but for your mum , it’s probably sub consciously Always on her mind. I’ve had dreams recently where dead relatives have been there . Also old school teachers and old employers . Very bizarre but to be expected at the moment . There was a newspaper article about it I read the other day . Maybe you could drop something like that into conversation to relax her. Pretend you have read something or saw something on tv about dreams . It might ease her mind a bit .

Id say your mum's worries prompted the dream for sure but there's no supernatural force at work. No clairvoyance. It's not an ominous sign.

Just a dream brought on my worries about dying, being an older person herself!!