Ok so I'll try to make it short!! Basically have a Freind since high school so we've been close for about 15 years now. Here and there she hasn't really come thru for me and I understood it as people are different and what I would do for her she may not necessarily do for me e. When I was getting married my family was going through a lot and were against me and none of my sisters wanted to do anything for me and I would cry about that to her and he was caring and empathetic but I was hurt that she didn't do anything for me like a bridal shower or bachelorette party. I know no one HAS to but honestly I thought somone would so fast forward a few years and I'm pregnant so I start planning my own baby shower and she's like what are you doing you can't plan your own , so I explained well last time I waited for someone to throw me a party and it never happened and I'm not making that same mistake again because I want to celebrate my baby coming just like I wanted to celebrate my engagement / marriage. And so when everyone found out I was planning something they felt bad and told me to stop and that they would do it . At that party she helped set up but then left because she said I have another party to go to which was starting way later so she could have don't both. I never really talked to her about those that's about 3-5 years ago. And from time to time she would lie about why she can't hang out because she's busy with work and then I find out she was at her bf's place or with other Freinds, and she wouldn't tell me about her relationships until about 6months into it but she would tell other Freinds (I never understood that , I never judge her,, we are different and I waited until my husband and she didn't but I think she thinks I care, I dont ,I just wanted that for me she has her own life and can live how she pleases)
Anyway long story long,,,now she has cancelled on my for every plan we've made for the past 6 months and she did come out to my bday which was nice and I took her out for her bday which is when I found out that every week she goes to events with her Freinds moves concerts, clubs,dinners, camping, beach etc and I was surprised that she always says she busy from work or too tired to hang out but clearly not. And for the pst month we had a set plan for this week and the day of she cancels and says she's soo sleepy , in our high school group chat my Freind mentions to her how was dinner (which was two days ago) and she's like on it was so much fun (some new trendy place) and then other Freind says how they went the movies the other night and it was amazing .
So I'm really irritated and the last time I casually mentions "hey girl been missing you it's been a while (at her bday) " she said "I have a confessions I've been frustrated with you because all you wanna do is go to this one cafe". So I was like wth is this why you've been flaking? And FYI I've done plenty of this aside from that cafe (which is 5 mins from my home and my hubby gets home late from work so when I just need time for myself I put the baby to sleep or he does and I go for an hour or so mostly alone since it's late but I need that to destress from the week). But I explained to her that I have many Freinds who we've made plans and usually would go out to eat or beach or malls etc baby friendly things since she's with me 90% of the time, and I told her that she simply could have said let's do something else and I only ever suggest going theee because when I say @what do you wanna do" she always says I don't know .... so now basically I'm frustrated and feel like she has time for everyone else and won't make the time for me and i think I've seen her probably 8 times this entire year that's including birthdays of ours and some Freinds bdays