One of the monthly magazines has good stuff for beginners, I think it might be Your Horse?

have got a quite old paperback somewhere called 'The Right Way to Ride a Horse' which has useful information, by William something or Walter something - don't know if still in print though

I've been lent a fantastic DVD by my instructor, from the Animated Riding series (DVD 01: Balanced Beginnings)which shows what all the muscles are doing. I don't have a link, but it's from fatcat studios (www.fatcatstudios.com).

I've learnt loads, and needed to because when I was taught way back when it was the Leicestershire hunting seat we all learnt:
(toes up and pointing inwards, heels down, elbows into your side, grip with your knees,shouldn't loose a penny if holding it between knee and saddle, should see an inch of toe when looking down, hands down and together, and steering aids given across the body!) CMOT, sometimes it's easier not to have learnt as a child!

I would like a book that explains how a horse can come in willingly from the field, seem quite happy to be tied yet, when you turn your back for less than a minute, wriggle out of his perfectly fitted headcollar and leave it there, still attached to the lead rope, while he silently vanishes before leading you the merriest of dances for about an hour as you try to catch him again

grrrrrrr

head collar was still done up though! it was like he had just disappeared - usually he breaks the lead rope leaving the string intact

bet he is really pleased to have added a new escape method to his already impressive repertoire

I would recommend an excellent book called, er, 'How to Ride' by Debby Sly. Link here.

It starts with the absolute basics, but then carries on through to some fairly advanced lessons - but all really well explained in an easy to follow way. It is also packed with multiple photos illustrating everything, which really helps. I've not seen a better book for novice adults, or for people wanting to brush up on anything they've forgotten (or need to do more correctly!). I refer to it often as it is very confidence giving and also very correct.

Sorry - I don't think this book can help with Mitchy's problem!

Mitchy - know the feeling. My TB is a dreadful escapee - he twiddles away at the leadrope until it comes undone then quietly wanders off. It doesn't matter how many loops I put in, he carries on until he succeeds. He will also undo other pony's headcollars and leadropes, open the feedroom door, undo gates if the fitting is the least bit loose, undo the front of his rugs, knock anything off left lying around on doors, shelves etc etc.

He also undoes the farriers apron when being shod - farrier not impressed! Another favourite is opening and closing the zip on your coat - he's a strange and simple soul really!

There are so many things to remember before I leave him anywhere, and I nearly always forget one. I've left the yard before now, come down the drive towards the house and then realised he's following me in a Monty Roberts way - he goes back quite happily without being led, I just put my hand on his poll and point him in the right direction - but god it can be a menace sometimes!

My horse used to have 'ESCAPOLOGIST' on a placard on his door when he first moved to one particular livery yard. He ate the sign during the first week, but did not escape. He waited till all the yard girls had forgotten about him escaping, then let himself and all of his fieldmates out of the field - him at the front with a 'follow me, chaps, I do this all the time' expression on his face and the others all looking far too excited.

He also let himself out of a temporary stable at a training camp once. I HAD asked for a solid, escape-proof stable, but sadly none had been available. I don't understand who even invented such 'easy-escape' stables as these were, but every night he was out.....

aww, there is a TB at our yard who likes to undo the completely horse-proof series of extra clips on his already horse-proof bolt and then let all his friends out to play - he is getting quite old now though and has been ages since he did that. Is always good to be reminded that they can ALL be rascals and scamps!

but Barney for first time ever escaped from his stable yesterday (special birthday present for me?) think he wanted to draw attention to the fact that he had done something extraordinary with his new combi stable rug, when I kissed him goodnight it was cosily covering him almost from poll to dock, but when he escaped in the morning it had turned into a nappy?

Great image Mitchy, know what you mean. If I leave a rug airing on the fence or gate himself will pull it down, and if I'm really lucky widdle on it - yuk, yuk!

I used to have a book called Centred Riding (Sally Swift) - it had some fantastic illustrations to help with your position.

ooohhh cmot how exciting - i have a dh who is allergic to horses but luckily quite tolerant of tack piling up in the hall waiting to go on ebay

CMOT, tiny boy's showing gear is like hen's teeth, but if you manage to track down one FMM (you won't find her here, but you'll definitely find her on Horse and Hound Online) she has a little boy who I think is about 8. She is absolutely never ever having any more kids, and occasionally tries to sell me his outgrown stuff for my daughter, but she's only 2 and far too small for his old stuff. I'm sure she won't mind me suggesting you ask her. She knows me as pandora.

All the other people I know selling stuff seem to be selling pink jods!

Bookwise I recommend Heather Moffett's Enlightened Equitation. It's out of print but there are usually copies available on Amazon or ebay. It goes into a lot of detail about your movements and the horse's movements, which might seem excessive for a beginner but is actually invaluable. (I remember learning with books that had just one sentence about each topic, e.g. "To ask the horse to trot, squeeze both legs." )

Cmot - i have daughters aged 5 and 10 and only just started so no stuff here. try horsegossip , it has a for sale and wanted boards and seems to be the place that show people hang out alot. be warned decking my 2 out for showing has cost well over £250 and theat was mostly second hand .....