Wwyd, life,horses,storm and a xmas party.

[whymewhyme]

Not just strictly horse chat, just life and horses.

Partner has a army xmas function tomorrow, I've known about it all year basically. Said I'd go, but now im back at work, and i'm in till 5, i couldn't get it off as no one would swap with me, the best I could do is get someone to take me off at 3.
Previous functions are 7/8 pm, so I'd have time get ready and get the baby in bed, he’s just turned 1 and bless his heart, he's a clingy nightmare and no one has had him for more than a 2hrs because hes so bad, so I have had doubts if I should go anyway but my mum convinced me to go.

Last week we found out the start time is between 4-5!!! How bloody early is that for a xmas party! It's completely thrown a spanner in the works, so I have 1hr to get ready and mum's now got to do tea,bath,bed. She's perfectly capable but baby on the other hand is a nightmare to go down for us never mind mum who's not done it with him before.

I have 2 Horses, they will be done in the morning before work, I leave them ready for the night. We have no lights and the girl who is up there with me will put them in before dark. So now we have storm darragh, the horses will have to stay in for the day, I can't ask the girl to muck out,hay/water/feed mine for the night, I have youngster who will be full of it and she's not great at tieing up either. My mum will have already been up with me in the morning and in all honestly she will stuggle to do them on her own , it will have to be earlier than usual because she will have to come to mine to have the baby.

I honestly feel like it's all too much, work till 3, baby who I'm dreading leaving, early start for the party, horses to be done for the night and now a bloody storm to contend with. My mums 71, I can't expect her to go bk up the horses, she can't muck out ect, then come mine and have the baby. Honestly, I feel like saying I'm not going, but my partners, I can tell he is disappointed when I mention not going. If I'd known it was such a early start I would of said no from the offset.

I can't ask him either, he's not horsey at all and clueless!

Would you go?

Do you have to be there for the start of the party? Could you just go and meet him there a bit later on?

Yeah I think I'd still try and go since you've already swapped at work and got your mum to babysit. Just go a bit later, a hour to quickly do the horses and an hour to get ready, you'll only be an hour or so late, if it's a casual thing that will be OK? Or if it's a super formal sit down dinner thing (although at 4pm, really?) can you skip that part and join them for drinks after?

I would put my horses out still during the day

I would ask my mum to deal with the baby if your partner drops her off, deal with the horses straight from work then quick change and at the party for 5/5.30.

Just because your baby is difficult to go down for you doesn't mean your mum will have the same problem.often children, even very young ones behave in a completely different for other people. The worst that happens is she cuddles up with him and reads or watches TV for a bit longer than normal

Get mum to sort baby. Chuck horses out anyway - they will be absolutely fine. Go as planned.

Where roughly are you, that would influence my decision what to about the horses in terms of the storm. Is it a formal where it'll be noticed you aren't there ie empty space at a table?

Would horses be in more danger out in the field? I’d have thought storm damage would be more likely to affect their stables.

I'm in the midlands, it's unlikely to be 85mph winds like the coast will likely have but still no great. The winds I can cope with it's the rain my you youngster will have a rug on, it will likely soak right through and our place is like a swap as it is.

It's a super formal military xmas do, apparently we've got the be leaving for 4.30 to get there for 5pm. My partner has been in the military 20yrs and he's never attended a xmas do that starts so early.

I'm probably stressing for nothing but I don't want put on my poor mum

Don't worry about the baby. Your mum will be fine and in worse case puts them in the pushchair and rocks then all evening.

Horses just do what you can in the morning and let the girl bring them in / check them / feed hay.

Go out and enjoy yourself!

How did you get on OP?