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Am I mad?

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Horsesareinmyblood · 02/04/2018 14:36

Bit of background I’m middle aged my username says it all. I spent 40+ years around horses owning riding training looking after others etc, I’m generally considered a very competent rider and very knowledgable. Then my absolute pride and joy my horse of a life time who I’d owned and trained since he was a yearling died suddenly I was gutted and for over 10 years I never even looked at a horse. Then I started riding at a top training centre initially once a week then twice then three times etc, then I started sharing and you guessed it next week I hand over the money for my own despite the fact that I said “never ever again” “shoot me if I even think about it”.
But suddenly I’m getting slightly cold feet. I’ve organised everything the livery (DIY with assistance) reorganised my job to look after him, the insurance farrier etc even my DH thinks it’s a good idea but rather than being excited I’m thinking “oh God what have I done?”
I’m not sure why. I guess I partly worry that I’ll put all this time energy effort and money into him and some disaster will befall him and Ill be devastated. He’s a super young horse, he suits me down to the ground, he’s bred to do what I want to do, and my DC will also be able to ride him and help when home from uni. I worry about the amount of time and commitment although now my DC’s have grown up Ive got more spare time than for years, I worry about the financial cost although I easily earn enough to put him onto part livery if necessary. 1/2 of me thinks it’s a great opportunity but ......

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Jonsnowsghost · 02/04/2018 14:46

Don't have cold feet! You'll have so much fun and enjoy it Grin

Fueledwithfairydustandgin · 02/04/2018 15:01

I often get like that about big decisions. It's just my nature to always think "what if" and worry about the potential problems. It sounds like you've really thought it through and are organised. At the end of the day you can always sell him if it doesn't work out

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 03/04/2018 21:39

I am riddled with envy and in awe Grin

Maybe you are thinking back to your Once-In-A-Lifetime horse and thinking nothing will compare?
But this new boy is waiting to take on board everything that you can teach him and he'll carve his own niche?

I would love to start horse riding again and thought about a part-loan but IRL, I'm too old and my body is too haggard , I wouldn't come out of it well if I fell off sadly.

Good luck - would you regret it more if you didn't buy him? There's your answer Smile

plominoagain · 03/04/2018 23:00

It is a great opportunity ! But having second thoughts is natural , I think . I’ve bought four horses in my lifetime , and I’d be lying if I said I’d been totally confident about buying any of them. But there are always options if it doesn’t work . But I’m sure once he’s here , all those jiggly worries will fade away ! And you do know you have to post a picture when he’s home , right ?

Shinycantle · 04/04/2018 12:50

You are not mad. It is entirely natural and understandable (and appropriate actually) that you feel very very cautious (a) because (as pp said) buying a horse is always a bit of a voyage in to the unknown however thoroughly you prepare and (b) given the circumstances in which you lost your last much loved horse. Without getting too deeply psychological, the whole process of committing to buy a new horse is probably bringing back a lot of memories about your old one. And it is such a huge loss when they go. And your subconscious probably is protecting you from feeling too madly excited because it is fearful that the same thing might potentially happen.

This current opportunity sounds fantastic though! And you have done all the groundwork! You will love it again once he's arrived! Everyone feels nervous leading up to a big event such as buying a house, giving a speech or a performance. The bit just before is the worst!!! Once you are on stage or signing the contract or whatever, the nerves subside!!

Go for it op! Good luck!

Greyhorses · 05/04/2018 16:12

Good luck Op!

I’ve felt like this buying all 3 of mine. I think I cried the day after all of them in a ‘what have I done’ panic Grin

Enjoy your new horse!

Moanranger · 06/04/2018 16:39

You sound super-organised and the purchase looks sensible. A young horse has a lot of years in it if brought on correctly, and can easily be sold in a couple of years if you are truly not up to it physically. Having D.C. help is also good. It sounds really well- thought out. Every decision is a risk - but go for it, I am sure you will have fun.

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