Would you employ a live in groom with Asperger's?

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In a domestic setting rather than a competition yard.

Absolutely yes

Yes! You sound lovely, and focussed!
Good luck 🤗🐴

You absolutely have the key attributes to be an excellent groom.
Although a bed in a barn? You deserve more than that.

Of course you can! And if you find it difficult to talk in an interview situation just use your current experience to answer the question. Your passion and love for the horses you are looking after is obvious in your posts.
Would or could your current employer help out with references or recommending you to a new employer?
Good luck.

OP if you haven't already come across him, look up Charlie Avent - young man with autism who practises natural horsemanship. Some of what you're saying about how you relate to horses reminds me of his work.

Yes, I would employ someone with Asperger's as a groom, if I thought they were competent and cared about the horses. It's the caring and reliability which people need the most.

@Chugalug The OP is the one with possible AS and is worried what people think so she's not and nobody else has been offensive in this post.

Thanks again to everyone posting

I'm just back from bringing the boys in for the night and I gave them extra scratches from the lovely people of MN.

I'm sorry my OP was so ambiguous, I was in worried, fretting, do I/don't I?, I can hardly string a sentance together mode.

But now I'm in happy, giddy, ramble on mode

I can freeze up when on the spot so do you think keeping a brief journal might be a good idea? A record of out of the ordinary things I deal with? Dealt with wound this type by a,b,c. Hunt been past, horses like whirlygigs, did this and that?

Sentence

It depends on how severe it is. Disability discrimination is illegal if the disabled person could do the job with reasonable adjustments - I don’t really see how mild-moderate AS could negatively impact a grooming position unless you have severe anxiety with it & might harm the horses or yourself?

Journaling is a great idea.

Just so you know OP...I rarely find mumsnet transfers into RL. I'd keep stum if I were you.

Thank you Gabilan I will look him up.

No, a camp bed in the barn will NOT do. You are worth a proper bed!

There are some award-winning CFs in the horse world - don't let yourself be exploited. There is no reason at all that a person with AS shouldn't be an excellent groom, so nobody employing you will be doing you a favour or an act of charity.

britishgrooms.org.uk This site might be useful to you, if you haven't looked here already.

If you were kind tio the horses and capable of the job, there is absolutely no reason why not.
And like pp have said, you are worth far more than a camp bed in a barn.

Oh, and if you enjoy working with sensitive horses / horses in need of rehab, don't rule out charities. They will have on-site accomodation and a good structure and routine for you to work within. You don't have to ride (if you don't want to) - there will be no shortage of horses that can't be ridden in need of tlc and rehab.

Sorry..I saw the ops question ,and got annoyed,should of carried on reading..ive an adult son with autism,so I guess this hit a raw nerve,good look op ,hope things turn out well for you 💐

Agree with Spudlet, charities might be a good place to look. As larger employers they're also more likely to be aware of legislation concerning disabilities and discrimination in the workplace. Also, maybe see if there are RDA places looking for anyone? I don't know if they usually have on-site accommodation but they will be much more likely to understand your needs.

IME the horse world can be an odd combination of somehow very accepting and also blindly prejudiced. But there's no reason you shouldn't get a job as a groom.

If you are good with horses, why not? I have a great friend with Aspergers who has several thoroughbreds, they all have the same attitude (.routine!) and they thrive. The horses could be difficult or unmanageable in different situations but they work perfectly together.

Thank you Chugalug, I can see why it was misinterpreted and I should have been clearer.

I hadn't thought of a charity and initially I thought it was perfect idea, thank you Spudlet (do you have a coloured horse? My memory has bells clanging like Big Ben but I don't know why!). But then I had a fleeting thought of seeing traumatic cases and I really don't think I could cope with highly charged emotions like that.

RDA a very good shout Gabilan, will add it to my list.

Yes, I'll be very aware of CFery and now hopefully more able to see it coming thanks to lots of learning on MN. Been there too many times and keen to avoid anything like that. No is a complete sentence. May the force be with me.

I don't I'm afraid . No horse at all, unfortunately!

Good luck with whatever you decide. What about somewhere like a racehorse rehab place? Less trauma, but still with the satisfaction of helping the horses adjust to their new lives?

If you're good with horses, can muck out well and reliable you'd be welcome on my yard! Have you thought of being a freelance groom? There's a huge shortage in my area of people to cover for illness, or when people are on holiday or at work. Personally I prefer people who do services for my horses to get on with the job and not stand around gassing all day, and suspect that's the same on many yards. You could try doing holiday cover and build from there?

You sound lovely.

This thegroomslist.co.uk/ might be useful too.

Good luck