I've ridden and owned my own horse for almost 10 years but after I started a family it felt like a real struggle and after failing to find a decent sharer, ruling out the possibility of sending my horse out on loan because of all the horror stories i've heard I ended up selling and giving up and I had a year without going near a horse.
I actually enjoyed the break, didn't think I missed it but did feel that I had nothing to fill my spare time so would go to the gym (I hate the gym but it's something to do) or just find myself doing house work & trying to fulfil my image of being a perfect mum with a spotless house and a homecooked dinner on the table every night.
Anyway, a friend has an older horse that is overweight, still perfectly sound but never really ridden as the owner is too big for her so we came to an arrangement whereby I ride a couple of times a week.
Horse is lovely, very safe and just what I needed to get my confidence back BUT, I really struggle with sharing when I've previously owned especially as this horses owner has no time for her and can barely afford to keep her.
I've already bought the horse a new bit and bridle as the ones she had didn't suit (I agreed with the owner I didn't just go off and do it and she was fine and said she'd been meaning to do it). The poor things saddle is apparently newish and was fitted recently but it doesn't fit.
She's only exercised on the days I go up and then left in the field for a few days and often the owner doesn't do more than drive by and check her. She's not on any supplements despite her age and while I know her owner loves her, it's not how I'd keep a horse and I'm already finding myself getting frustrated and trying not to cross the line and become a difficult sharer.
I sort of regret selling my horse now as people did tell me I was being too impulsive and that as my daughter got older it would get easier (and it has already - my daughter loves horses and loves coming to the yard to help out!)
My last horse was a superstar though and I don't know that I'd find the likes of him again plus I'm still not sure I could deal with the responsibility of owning again although I'm warming more and more to the idea!
Argh - I'm not sure what to do. On one hand, this horse is lovely and I do think she's benefiting from the time and attention I'm giving her but I'm also a bit worried that with the saddle issues (which I can guarantee the owner will not be able to sort) I'll end up doing damage to her and she's not exactly a young thing (early 20's ex broody).
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Finding it hard to adapt to sharing
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kitkat321 · 15/09/2017 23:46
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