am i mad... pony question!!!! help

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Bought dd wonderful conemara - wanted mother daughter share but she fell for a forward going conemara and she is really wizzy you have to sit v still which dd can do ,or anything is intrpreted as a forward aid,and im struggling - have to currenlty ride on lead rein which ive not done since i was little.Ive now got this dream to get one for me and ive seen a cob for 1000 my size .dh gone mad as we dont have the money for the purchase and i would have to get extra work on a perm basis or it would affect the whole family

.i feel so so exited at the idea of having my own- a dream ive had for many years.-
the idea of pony share didnt work as what dd wants is opposite of what i need.she is competative and im not and dont have the ability to be i guess or the temperment-.but combined with this feling of massive wishing is the guilt of the stress i wd put dh under and the worry of a long term commitment of two ponies............my heart says yes doit you only lie once but i dont want to stress dh as he works long hours and i dont like affecting others by my choices.

he has asked me to wait a year to see how we manage with one - but im 50next year and i dont want to.a relative of mine delayed his dream about something similar and a year later he became ill and only got it for a year and so its made me aware that time is precious ....

oh no - i meant only live once not lie once!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Have you had any lessons and support with your share Conemara? You may find that a good instructor can help you figure out how to ride and enjoy him.

Getting another horse is a big time and financial commitment - only you know if you can accommodate it, however I would say tha 1k is a very low budget for the confidence giving hack you sound like you would like, is this horse really what would suit you?

Would it not be possible to share some one elses horse? At the same yard you're at maybe or one close by? Thus far eliminating some of the financial/commitment strain on yourself? I'd also agree that £1000 is cheap? Why is it so cheap, whats wrong with it?

Is there anything at your yard that you could borrow occasionally? We used to be in a similar situation but luckily my mum was able to borrow a lovely steady cob so that we could ride out together at the weekends (cob's owner worked weekends so everybody happy). As time passed my sister and I were able to contribute more from paper rounds/saturday jobs/babysitting etc so when the cob's owner offered him to my mum as a gift she could afford to accept. Maybe something like this could work for you? (not being given a horse necessarily ).

Took me too long to post that obviously .

ive asked around the yard so one willing to let me ride its a very small yard - wd need to loan or buy.........

I'm always sceptical about mother daughter shares for this reason, you want different things, and also if you share then you can't ride together. So GD has a 14.2 forward connemara/tb and I have a nice 14hh round little Fell/cob. She's very well behaved but you do have to ride her, she's no plod, and she also likes cuddles so she's perfect for me.

I'm 50 and have had my pony about 18 months. I couldn't have my own when I was a kid as we couldn't afford it. So at the age of 50 I'm loving my first pony (she was a Christmas present from DH) and she's very low maintenance so doesn't cost a lot to keep.

In the current climate there are lots of horses available for loan (although safe sane cobs are still highly sought after) or you might get lucky with a share, but you'd need them on the same yard (we had 6 months of horses at two yards and it was very difficult). If you can afford it then I'd go for it, I have never been happier I'm lucky as my DH got the horse bug and has his own horse. But we do have to make sacrifices to afford the horses

Good luck!

I am the worst person to give you advice but I would say do it!!

I had an opportunity last year to get my dream horse (an Andalusian colt) and though I already had another horse, I couldn't say no.

I'm so glad I did, sometimes you only get that 1 chance for a dream, grab it!!

gone and reserved a loan with view to but black cob 14 hands .v gentle .oh wow.trebles im fifty next year and i feel the time is now !!!

with view to buy i meant ooops typing too fast !!!